New year, new you, right?? Noooooooppppppeee. You are still you every year, as you should be. So instead of using every new year as an opportunity to start again, change ourselves, or block out the past, why don’t we consider something different? Need more reasons to cut the crap on New Year’s resolutions? Check out my last blog post – it gives you atleast 4! CLICK HERE
Each day is a blessing, not just each new year. Instead of wiping the slate clean each year, we should be taking the lessons from each year and each day into the next. Use each year to continue to build on yourself and grow, not “start again” or be a “new you”. If you do that every year, you’ll be a new person every 12 months. You won’t give yourself the chance to be authentic, or to be truly vulnerable as to what your areas of opportunity for growth are because you are too busy wiping the slate clean to start again.
Here are 10 pieces of inspo that I have found hugely valuable in helping me keep momentum year on year on my goals and my vision for my own life. These little pieces of inspo will help you get the fu*k out of your own way! (P.s Nothing listed below is a paid endorsement – these are all just videos, books, articles etc I have found helpful, and hopefully you will too).
1) The book entitled “The Life Plan” by Shannah Kennedy – this book has largely contributed to my own ‘lightbulb’ moments a few years ago where I realised how important it was to have a life plan if you really wanted to maximise what you got out of your 30,000 days on earth.
2) This epic TED Talk by Brene Brown all about The Power of Vulnerability – https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability . This TED Talk is a great reminder about why it is ok to be authentic and vulnerable. You don’t have to have all the answers, you just keep building towards them.
3) This article by The Collective to remind you about why trying to achieve work/life balance is a myth and quite frankly just EXHAUSTING – Here is “What are happy women doing differently? The Power of Tilting” – https://collectivehub.com/2017/02/what-are-happy-women-doing-differently/
4) Get yourself a coach or an a**-kicker to help keep you on track – I have been blessed enough to have had a couple of coaches over the last few years and my lesson is this…. It is SO important that you find a coach that you feel “gets” you. If you aren’t on the same wave length, it isn’t going to work. I have had good and bad coaching experiences – not because they weren’t good, but because I don’t think they were the right coach for me at that time, or they weren’t aligned with who I was and what I was about. Don’t like the idea of a coach? Then find yourself a trusted and truthful friend who will hold you to account on your goals and commitments.
5) Work out what your non-negotiables are and STICK to them! Is family the most important thing in your life? Then why are you not creating boundaries to make sure you are home in time to spend quality time with them each night? Health your number one priority? Then create space for exercise and stick to it.
6) Make your goals visible! Once you have a plan on what your life goals look like, and you have decided on what your non-negotiables are – MAKE THEM VISIBLE! Whether this is through a vision board that you continue to update (it should be a live piece of work, not something static that never gets refreshed), or you program your phone to remind you of your goals each day, whatever works for you – just make it visible and something you continue to be reminded of.
7) Start NOW and just keep going! Sometimes we build our goals up in our heads to be so big that we then don’t know where to start – so then we don’t start! The way to keep momentum and to keep inspired is to just keep going. Keep taking small steps to your goals and celebrate the wins along the way – that way you’ll maintain momentum and you will be able to keep your eye on the prize.
8) Don’t procrastinate – EAT THAT FROG! Ever heard of the phrase “Eat that frog”? It basically means to eat the ugliest, worst looking frog in your day first – or, complete the worst, ugliest task that you have to do, straight away. It will help create a sense of achievement early on in your day and then help you avoid procrastination for the remainder of it. Check out Brian Tracey’s book “Eat that Frog” if you haven’t read it before.
9) Get yourself some role models that align with your values – Who are the people you look up to? Aspire to? Get yourself some clear role models and in times when you are feeling unmotivated or uninspired think about what these people would do. Would they sit on the couch feeling sorry for themselves? Unlikely. They would be up and about tackling the issue head on. Research your role models and understand how they live their lives. Then channel your inner role model.
10) Finally, remember this ….– “Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” Unknown.
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