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How to manage Interview Guilt?

This one is a really interesting topic and one I hadn’t considered writing about until a friend recently shared with me the struggle she was having with interview guilt whilst going through the recruitment process for a role with a new potential employer. The interview itself wasn’t what she was nervous or anxious about, it was more to do with the fear of her current workplace finding out and the guilt she felt from going on an interview during the workday. The fear of judgement. The fear of being exposed.  The feeling of cheating.

 

I don’t think my friend is alone here. I think that many of us have probably suffered the feeling of “interview guilt” at one stage or another in our lives. That feeling like you’re cheating on one job with another. Dipping your toe in the water of a new working relationship. Teasing yourself with the prospect of what could be. Has this ever happened to you?  How did you feel? What did you do?

 

As part of my role, I am often meeting people who are looking for an opportunity to join our organisation. People who are looking for a new challenge, a new career path, or a new opportunity to make their mark. So, with that said, perhaps I have a slightly different view on things than the average person who isn’t living in the recruitment space on the regular.

 

My view is this – people interviewing for a new role whilst still in their current role is what makes the business world go around.  Almost everyone who has joined a new business has had to leave another business. Almost everyone we have head-hunted, poached or lured into a new organisation, has left another organisation. And the organisation that they left will then go and lure someone new from somewhere else.  And so, the cycle goes on. And on. And on.  Therefore – my view on this remains simple.  We are all either doing the cheating, or facilitating the cheating in some way, shape or form and at some point in our working lives.

 

Back to my friend. She felt immense guilt for going to an interview at 10.30am in the morning. A tough time of the day to be honest, and one that as someone in the recruitment game I try to avoid doing this to people as much as possible. It makes it tough and it often puts them in a position where they have to lie. However, my advice to my girlfriend was this – you are entitled to a break during your workday.  You take an hour for lunch, therefore consider this as your lunch. Brunch if you will.

 

Bottom line. You have nothing to feel guilty about.  When interviewing for roles, yes  you need to exercise a level of discretion. Yes, you need to ensure you don’t flip the bird completely to your workplace and ‘check out’ of your role before you’ve even been made a new offer. But No, you should not harbour guilt for allowing yourself to hear what may (or may not be) on the table as part of your own career path.

 

Why? Because good can come from a job interview either way. How, you ask? Well, consider this – a) you are either now in a position to be reminded about the good gig you are on in your current workplace and then perhaps you may appreciate it more. Or b) you may also be enlightened to the fact that there may be a better suited opportunity out there for you.

 

Although the awkwardness of juggling interviews as well as a full time job is probably something you can’t avoid, there are a few things you can do to mitigate the risk of exposing yourself too early in the game. Particularly, if you don’t feel like you have a relationship with your boss where you can be open enough about the fact you are looking.

 

Firstly, as much as you can, try to schedule your interviews either early in the morning or later in the day. This makes it easier to be a bit more subtle when you are interviewing and allows you to start early, finish early, or vice versa and not draw as much attention to the big gap in your work day. Depending on your recruiter and the hiring managers schedule this may not always be possible, but it is completely reasonable to ask the question.

 

Secondly, keep your output up in your current role and don’t stuff up your current job just because you might of decided you were open to another. Not only does it not leave a good taste in your current employers mouth, but the world is a small place and you should be able to hold your head high and maintain a level of pride knowing that you have continued to deliver in your current role.

 

Also, if you need some additional tips on your interview style and how to prepare, maybe you need to check out one of my previous blog posts that tells you now to nail your interview and not walk away with regrets. Check it out HERE.

 

If you need help with your interview style, or perhaps are just after some career guidance or direction – I can help.  Book one of my 20-minute free coaching consults here and let’s get you out of your own way!

Much Love,

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way! 
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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Welcome to our ‘Real Women’ Interview Series with Charlene Perera!

The scary wake-up call I had that made me realise I was practising self-care all wrong!!!!

How to rise above when people want to drag you down…

I am SO pumped to kick off our “real world” women interview series with none other than my incredible friend Charlene Perera! Charlene laughs loudly, doesn’t take life too seriously and always puts herself out there realising that the greatest rewards come with risk –  Which is why I thought she was a PERFECT choice for someone who can share how she is having their cake AND eating it too!

You might recognise Charlene from her time on Married at First Site back in 2018, – since that experience she has not only found an amazing man, but also has continued to be a powerhouse business-woman dominating the footwear industry, has recently started an executive MBA and STILL remains a beautiful soul with a great story to share!

I think we can all learn a bit from this awesome interview with Charlene and take some great tips and tricks away – check it out below!

Charlene real confident women

Charlene, we would love you to give us a bit of a bio of who you are and what you do?

Sure! My name is Charlene Perera and I look after the team, brand and all the other bits that have to do with a US footwear brand called Hush Puppies across Australia and New Zealand. If we must do titles, then I’m the General Manager for Hush Puppies – I LOVE it!

 

What is the biggest personal risk you have taken and how did you arrive at the decision to take the leap? 

The biggest risk that I have taken was leaving my university course with about 6 months to go…. I had no idea what I was going to do, I just knew that, that wasn’t it. I was at uni and working part time in a clothing store called Landes in Richmond, Melbourne. It wasn’t until I started working full time that I realised there was this whole world called ‘buying’ and I knew that’s where I wanted to be.

After creating a strategy for the clothing stores accessory business, I was lucky enough that they owners let me execute it and my career has just stemmed from there – it was a blind leap and I wouldn’t change a thing!

 

How do you stay motivated and how do you work out what you want to achieve in your life?

There’s always more….. it’s a good thing but also can be exhausting. In everything I do whether it be my career or my personal life an end goal is everything!

As soon as I know what my end goal is going to be, the strategy to how I achieve it may change 10 times, but where I’m headed never does. That drive for me is everything. To be completely honest, staying motivated is never really an issue, because I always want the end goal. I just really have to make sure that I enjoy the achieved goal for long enough before my head starts bouncing off to the next thing.

 

What does “success” mean to you? How would you define it for your life?

My definition of success is ‘hitting that target, accomplishing that goal or reaching that vision’.

Success to me has always been linked to happiness. Your mind can become so heavily focused on your strategy/vision that you can forget whether you’ll be happy when you get there – so long as whatever it is, will make me happy, then it’s worth striving for success.

 

Have you ever experienced Imposter Syndrome or a time where have felt like you weren’t good enough, smart enough, or experienced enough? How did you deal with it? What advice would you have for other women who struggle with self-doubt or low self confidence?

I deal with imposter syndrome often – it drives me crazy as generally I’m such a self-confident person. Given I started my career without a ‘degree’ or higher education qualification I often feel a wave of ‘surely there’s something I’m missing’ or surely someone is going to say to me one day ‘oh you actually have no idea what you are doing’.

How I repeatedly get myself through this though is by remembering that most things in my life or business come down to simplicity and common sense – you don’t need to have a degree for that.

Furthermore, in my position at Hush Puppies and leading a team, it’s not about me having the right answers, it’s about asking the right questions.

What I would say to women who are challenged by self-doubt is ‘if not you then who’, what makes someone else more capable? The right attitude and passion are worth their weight in gold. One phrase that I have learnt to live by is ‘fake it till you make it’, one day you realise you aren’t treading anymore you are just swimming without even realising.

 

What advice do you have for women who might not be sure of what their purpose is, or what they want to do with their lives?

Oh I know this feeling all too well!!!

The only advice that I can truly offer here is to ‘try everything’.  It means giving up personal time, doing things for free, reading a lot and most of all never saying no to an opportunity. But until you truly put yourself out there and experiment, you will never really know what you are capable of and what you might just fall in love with. You really have to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

 

What do you think the top 3 skills are that women need to have in a professional sense to be successful?  

Be authentic – always stay true to who you are – you can’t be anybody else.

Be passionate – create an electricity that people will feed from and be inspired by.

Be human – in the professional or corporate world people can forget that we are all human. The core essentials are key be open, be honest and be kind.

 

What do you think so often prevents women from asking for what they want, and what advice do you have for the Eating your Cake too community to help them build their confidence?

I honestly feel that women often don’t go after what they want is because they feel under qualified, which is all based around a lack of confidence. My advice here is that you really don’t know until you try. When I have lacked confidence and gone for it any way I have found that my version of common sense and my authenticity always prevails.

 

What is a quote that you live by?

I have a few that I absolutely live by:

“Team work, makes the dream work”

“Fake it till you make it”

“Not here to f*ck spiders”

“In a world where you can be anything, be kind”

‘Hold the vision, trust the process”

There is some AMAZING advice in there from Charlene!! Thank you so much!

 

If you have any other questions for Charlene, we would LOVE to here from you – email me at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

 

If you found this interview helpful, then don’t miss our next “Real World” women interview with the amazing Kylie Falconer, owner of KX Pilates Booragoon studio, Lululemon Ambassador,  co- founder of Lacuna Wild and all round girl boss!!!

 

Finally, if you know another sister who needs some words of wisdom like the ones here, then PLEASE pass this onto them and share the love!

Much Love,

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way! 
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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I want to ask you a question.

Have you ever felt upset, disgruntled or undervalued because you weren’t considered for something? It might have been a job opportunity, a promotion, a stretch task or project, or even just to get involved in something outside of your usual fold?

Now…. I want you to think of these examples and reflect on whether you had ever made it known previously to anyone that you were interested in job opportunity “a”, or that you wanted to be considered for promotion “b”, or, that you were interested in being given the chance to take on more work in example “c”?

I often speak to people who are upset or disgruntled by the fact that they haven’t been offered, handed even, a particular opportunity. Yet, when I ask them if they have ever mentioned their interest in said opportunity, whether they had ever voiced it to their manager, a colleague, or even a friend – the answer is often a resounding NO.

Often, it is as if the expectation is on others to read the mind of this person and their unique ambitions, aspirations or areas they might want to get involved in that are outside their norm.
This is what I then often see happen.  The person who feels they were passed over or ignored for an opportunity becomes progressively more and more resentful, unhappy or disgruntled – at this point still not having said anything about their interest in one of the examples provided above, but expect still that their manager, colleagues, or friends should just know.

Am I suggesting that managers don’t own some responsibility for understanding and appreciating the unique aspirations and development goals of their people? Absolutely not. And if you’re curious about my thoughts on what makes a good leader, then you should see this list in my recent blog post about that they don’t tell you before you become a manager, but what you NEED to consider. CLICK HERE. 

But, peeps – this isn’t enough. Leaving your goals and dreams in the hands completely of others is not the answer. It gives you a scapegoat. It gives you someone to blame when those dreams don’t come true. When YOUR dreams don’t come true. And it gives you a reason to be unhappy or become resentful.

It is so important to your own success that you put yourself out there when it comes to your goals and aspirations. It is critical that you have conversations with people about where you want to go and what you want to achieve in your career. Or, if you don’t know what this is, it is just as important that you have those conversations too. Why? Because then you can be kept in mind for opportunities to try new things.

Am I saying that by making your goals and aspirations known that the next time a promotion opportunity comes around, it will be yours on a platter? No, I am not. But, I am saying that by putting yourself out there you are in great stead for that opportunity, or atleast will gain valuable feedback and development advice on what you need to do to try and attain that opportunity, which you may not have had if you had not made your goals known.

YOU are the only one in control of your life. Your career. Your path. Although your manager, your colleagues and your friends play a part in your life, they are not responsible for what you achieve.

Do you need clarity over what your goals and dreams are?  Have you considered what career path you want? Where you want to go or how to get there, either professionally or personally? Maybe you need a discovery session to start to distill some of your mental clutter. 

I am currently offering discovery packages at HALF PRICE!! That’s right, 50% OFF! Think 2019 is your year to kick some a**??? Then contact me to learn more about how a discovery session will help you. 

NOTE: I only work with people who are really ready to take control of their lives and get out of their own ways!

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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When I was first introduced to the concept of “relationship credits” it felt wrong to me. I felt weird and it felt a little bit disingenuous to be honest. I didn’t understand how we could truly have authentic relationships that had a “credit bank” attached to them.

However, I see now that whether we like it not, all relationships have some sort of credit bank – some are just more conscious than others.

We give and we take to everyone we know. Sometimes we give more, sometimes we give less.  I have relationships with some people where I know I do 99% of the giving and very little taking. Others, I’m probably more of the taker. And then there are some that are a solid 50/50. You need them, and they need you, maybe at contrasting times, but consistently.

This blog article is going to focus more on the importance of strong and healthy relationships in the professional environment. You’ll walk away understanding why you need them and why it is important to invest conscious time in them.

 

Have you ever had someone ask you for a pretty reasonable sized favour, right out the blue and you barely even know them?  They’ve asked you to stop what you’re doing, put yourself on the back-burner and help them with something when you’ve barely had much to do with them before? This is where the value of relationship building and essentially where relationship credits come in to play. If you had a relationship with that person, maybe they’d helped you with something before, and now they are asking for your assistance in return, you don’t bat an eyelid. You get the ‘what goes around comes around’ merry-go-round.

Hold the phone for a second though.

The first scenario where you don’t know them at all, and they’ve asked you to inconvenience yourself to assist them might be a harder pill to swallow.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we shouldn’t just help people in the workplace because they are asking – of course we should – that is the reason why a lot of us have jobs – to help others in the business when they need us.

But, put it this way – you have two people who both need your services or assistance at the same time. You are only one person – therefore, you can only help one at a time.  Who do you go to first? The one you have a better relationship with, dah!  The one who invested time in getting to know you, thanks you for helping them, or may have even helped you before.

Whether you like it not, this is the way humans are wired. We are a relationship focussed bunch. All the relationship credit concept does, is bring this in to the light and make sure you are more consciously investing into the relationships that you need to in order to do your job well.

How and why should you consciously invest more in your professional relationships?

 

1) Firstly, if you work with the attitude of “people don’t matter, I’m just here to do my job”, then you are already on the back-foot. Change your mindset and change it quickly. Not only do people hire people they like, but people with strong and mutually beneficial two-way relationships tend to advance in business as well.

 

2) Make relationship development a standard part of your week – Make it a point to invest time with 3 or 4 people in your business and get to know them, what they do and what they‘re all about. A simple “how are you?” as you keep walking and don’t even hear the response is not enough – ya feel me?

 

3) Keep your networks with people you used to work with too – Make sure you invest time with previous colleagues and keep those relationships fresh – they might work somewhere you want to work someday, and you don’t want the first time they hear from you in 8 years to be when you are asking them for an introduction or a referral.

 

4) Be open to what you don’t know and that it might actually be of value to you – What you can learn from others, both professionally and personally can influence your career or your life. If you are so closed off to that and don’t get to know others, you don’t know what goodies or opportunities you could be missing out on.

 

Curious to know more about the relationship credit concept, or need help with your own career roadmap? Flick me a note at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and we can talk about how to set you up for success now and for your future.

 

If you need some help working out what your next career move is, I can help. I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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WARNING: This post includes reasonable levels of sarcasm. Enjoy ?

Due to the nature of my job, I sit through my fair share of job interviews. I actually really enjoy them – meeting new people, getting to hear their unique journeys, their stories and their career aspirations. However, just through the general law of averages that means I have also sat through my fair share of doozies when it comes to interviews.

 

So…….. I’ve decided to share with you all my list of “do’s” and “don’ts” when it comes to interview preparation. Here’s how you can nail your interview and ensure you don’t walk away wanting the world to swallow you whole.

 

Here is my lovely list of “must do’s before your interview to ensure you nail it every time:

 

  1. Please, sweet baby Jesus, RESEARCH the damn Company you have applied to work with. Infact, do one better and research the Company BEFORE you apply to work with them. If I had a dollar for every person I have called, who, when I ask them what it was about “Company X” that excited them, they respond to me with “I don’t really know anything about the Company”, or worse, they list brands, products, or services to me that “Company X” doesn’t own, sell, or do – I would be a very rich person!!!

 

  1. Prepare some notes or some questions to ask in your interview based on the research that you most definitely have now done because you followed my wise suggestion in point one. Your interviewers will love that you have done your homework and that you are clearly engaged and excited by the role. I love people who come prepared with questions – I especially love when people ask me things like “how long I’ve been with the business for?”, “What I like most about it?” etc. It tells me they care about where they are working and the people they will be working with.

 

  1. BE ON TIME! Or, if your sisters, friends cat really did get hit by a bus, at least ensure you call to advise that you will be late. It is not a good look when you rock up late to an interview, and you did not advise, or call the interviewers, and then do not even apologise when you arrive. My advice is always this – give yourself as much time as possible so that you are not flustered when you arrive. Account for things like bad traffic, late buses or trams, no parking, getting lost etc. Worst case (really best case!) you are early and then you have time to sit in your car, centre yourself and ensure you rock up as the best version of yourself for your interview and not a sweaty, hot mess who has forgotten what role they are actually interviewing for.

 

  1. Whilst I am on the topic of punctuality – I also believe there is such thing as being TOO early. Hence, my point above. If you are 30 minutes early to the venue for your interview (firstly, bravo!), but go and grab a coffee nearby, or sit in your car and read for a bit, but PLEASE don’t arrive at reception 30 minutes early for your interview – it puts unnecessary pressure on the interviewers, and quite frankly, is annoying.

 

  1. Ensure you get your roles right (yes, I am serious!). I understand that when people are actively looking for that next job they may be applying for more than one role. However, please ensure that you are very clear on the role that you are interviewing for when you arrive. Also ensure you are prepared to answer the relevant questions to that role that will no doubt require you to talk about how your experience is relevant to the role you are applying for.

 

  1. Be prepared to state your remuneration expectations out loud, if you haven’t already done so in the initial phone screen. AND, if you have done so in the phone screen, make sure you write down what you said (particularly if you weren’t being totally honest) – why? Because you’ll likely get asked again in the interview and if you say two different figures because you forgot the lie you told the first time, you start to appear a bit dishonest. If you’ve never thought about your rem expectations before and how to ask for them, then this blog is a MUST READ, my friend. Click here.

 

  1. Finally, come prepared with examples to questions that you will of course get asked. Things like talking about your strengths, your development areas (this isn’t a trick question, we all have them.), how you work in a team, how you like to be managed, how you manage stress, examples of how you have pushed boundaries before, or managed projects or teams are all likely to be asked. So….. prepare for them with some examples. That way when you are asked, you don’t have to sit there staring blankly at the interviewers like you want to pass out.

 

Are these tips really just the world according to Claire? Possibly. But I confidently feel that if you can nail the above and you genuinely have the relevant experience that a role is looking for, then you should find yourself very much in with a solid chance to be the successful candidate.

 

Does the thought of going to an interview make you sweat? Need help prepping? Perhaps you know you want out of where you are currently, but you’re not sure what the next step is for you? I can help you.  Hit me up at youcan@eatingyoucaketoo.com and let’s talk about how we can get you out of your own way and on to a new and fulfilling career path.

What do I do?
If you need some help working out what your next career move is, I can help. I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life.  www.claireseeber.com.au or www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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Often when we talk about career development, we talk about climbing the ladder, or taking that next step “upwards”, yet often we don’t know what this really means to us. We are conditioned to think that success always should mean a vertical climb, when in all truthfulness, success comes from achieving whatever the f*ck YOU want to!

I have had a number of conversations with people lately about what their career path should/could/would look like and more often than not the next step people think they need to take in order to be “successful” in their careers is to lead or manage a team.

For a lot of people this is a fantastic opportunity and something that they will absolutely thrive at, for others, it is just not something that they enjoy doing – and quite frankly, therefore, should not do it. Often people are promoted into roles by the Company they work for because they might be a great individual contributor or technical expert in their field, but, move them into a role where they are managing people and responsible for others development, and they are no longer competent, or even capable of thriving in what they once were an expert at.

Leading a team of people, be it 1 or 100, is a tough gig. It takes patience, encouragement, trust and a genuine belief that other’s success is your success. I often see and speak to people that are not ready for a leadership or management role, yet get thrust into them because they might be a fantastic individual contributor, all to then realise that they actually hate it. This often leads to demotivation, frustration because they are no longer working in a role they find fulfilling and, in some cases, leads to a once high-performer now being a low performer.

You can still be an incredibly successful person and go far in your chosen career path, without managing a team of people.

There are a couple of things that I deem critical to being a successful leader and would encourage you to truly reflect on BEFORE you find yourself managing a team, or put your hand up and say you want to.

 

ARE YOU:

1) A good listener, who enjoys taking the time and listening to people to help them problem-solve? When people want to talk to you, you’re pleased to stop and chat and you don’t see it as an annoyance. There is nothing worse than a manager who tells employees “I don’t have time for this!” when they have questions about the work. If this might be you – stop and reflect if becoming a manager is really what you want.

2) Sincerely keen to learn more about yourself and other people, and you’re willing to look in the mirror as you learn and make the necessary changes? Leadership is not easy and it’s not always fun. To be a leader, you have to be humble enough to learn from your employees. A leader who thinks they have all the answers will never gain the respect of their team mates – and without that, you really can’t go very far.

3) Excited by the idea of developing a team and helping people see their full potential? Do you get sincere satisfaction out of encouraging people to step up? Then being a manager is likely for you. Note: If you see developing others as just “fluff” that HR expect you to do, I’d probably stop right now, do not pass GO, do not collect $200 dollars.

4) Skilled with well-developed time management and organisational skills and you are able to manage your own workload very well? It is not your teams fault that you have work to do too – you’ll need to find a way to manage this and ensure you’re available for them when they need.

5) Patient and don’t get frustrated by questions that you might know the answer to – just because you know the answer, doesn’t mean everyone does.

6) Prepared for what can at times be a lonely gig – leadership can be lonely, particularly if you have gone from colleague to manager. You need to find a balance now between being the friend and the decision maker and that is by no means easy.

7) Prepared to have to make some pretty tough decisions or execute on some pretty rough decisions that you may not always agree with?

If you said yes to all of these, then well played Ma’am – you are likely someone who will thrive when managing a team.

Finally, consider this – if the main reason you want to become a manager is because it pays more than your current job pays, then perhaps this isn’t really what you want. AND guess what – that is ok! But, do yourself a favour and truthfully reflect on the above and whether the thought of all these things lights you up, or you see it as an inconvenient task that will just get in the way of you doing your job.

Stepping into a management role isn’t the only way to progress and lead a successful career. If you want other tips and tricks to ensure you enjoy professional success without becoming part of the corporate climb, check out my recent blog post about how you don’t have to go UP, to move UP. CLICK HERE   

If you need some help working out what your next career move is, I can help. I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber
Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

 

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Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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Who sits in that chair above? Have you ever tried to describe them? Have you ever stopped and considered what your personal brand is? What the message that you send out to world looks like? Whether you like it or not – we all have a personal brand.  What vibe do you give off when you walk into room? The way you speak, the stories you tell, the way you communicate, the way you dress, this is all a part of your unique personal brand. Are you currently using it to your advantage? When we think of products, we think of brands and the way they are marketed to us – some appeal to you, others do not. The same will be true for your personal brand.

The question is this – how do you make sure that the people you want to appeal to, whether it is colleagues, clients, your manager, new job prospects, or the industry you work within, are interested and trusting in your personal brand?

Some of you may have read my last blog about self-development and knowing who you are, warts and all! (Check it out here if you missed it).  Having a strong self-awareness will be a big help when it comes to having an understanding of your own personal brand and its message. Sure, when you walk into an interview, it is unlikely that the interviewers will be able to tell your motivator at its core, or what your drivers in life are, but what they will be able to tell is your demeanour, your personality, your confidence and the manner in which you speak.

They will also likely already have a picture of you in their minds from the research they may have done online, through your resume, or through references from people who may have worked with you before.  If you don’t know what this all looks, feels like, then how do you know if it is helping you or hindering you?

Personal Branding is the key to giving yourself an advantage both in your current job and when you search for a new one. Your personal brand is something that follows you around – you can’t shake it. It’s something that exists even if you don’t bother to nurture it. From job to job, the way you present yourself professionally matters, and it is instrumental in establishing yourself as a valuable leader and contributor in whatever your field of expertise might be.

Ever googled yourself to see what comes up? Now might be the time, my friend. Ever tested your Facebook privacy settings to see what strangers can find of you? Now might be the time.  As vain as it might sound, before people get to meet you and get to know you and the deeper message of your personal brand, they will go on what they can find, which in this day and age is all in the public domain – don’t you ultimately want control, as much as possible, on what that message is?

Because of social media and our boundaryless levels of visibility, personal branding is one of today’s leading career strategy topics and a critical tool for flourishing in today’s work environment. It helps you attract business opportunities through playing to your strengths and communicating expertise to your chosen target audience through your online, verbal and networking channels.

Not sure of your personal brand? Here are a couple of tips to help you start controlling the message, instead of it controlling you:

Know who you are – if you don’t have an awareness of who you are and what you stand for then you’ll have no idea what message you are giving off, or if that is the message you want to be giving off – check out my recent blog around self-awareness here which will help you.

Complete a social media audit -do a scan of what is currently in the public domain regarding you and decide if you are happy with it. You want consistency in your message, so consider this when doing your homework. A professional picture of you on your Linkedin site, coupled with an open Facebook profile with pictures of you skulling wine from a box might not send a consistent message. I’m not saying don’t skull the wine, I’m just saying maybe lock down your facebook! ?

Raise your profile – share your thoughts and educated opinions to help get your profile out there. Become a thought leader in your field, whether this be internally within your current role and workplace, or externally out in the market. Get to know people and allow them to get to know you and your thoughts, opinions and knowledge on the areas you’re skilled in.

Work out what your Unique Selling Proposition (USP) is: Companies spend insane amounts of money understanding their customers and how to pitch themselves in the market to create a USP. You’re also unique and you too have unique value that is important to articulate clearly to successfully position yourself in the market – remember your “market” might be internal in your workplace or external within the industry, or both!

Need help cultivating your personal brand? Or, not sure where to start? I can help you work out your USP and help you dig deep into who you are what you’re all about! Once you know this you’ll experience a heightened sense of confidence and self-esteem. If you feel like this could be lacking – contact me and let’s have an initial chat about your goals.

 

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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You’ve done it. Everything you have worked so hard for has been recognised. The late nights, the extra work, its been noticed and you have been promoted into a leadership role. Amazing! You get to lead a team. You get to set the tone for your team and drive the teams objectives forward. It will be fun they said. It will be great they said. YOU will be great, they said.

Then reality hits. You’ve never managed people before. In fact, you are now managing people who last week were your colleagues. You used to whinge together over lunch about your manager – now you are that person. Sh*t. Will they talk about you behind your back too? Will they think you aren’t capable, or that you shouldn’t have been promoted over them? Are you even capable? Oh gosh, people will realise I can’t do this! I can’t do this!!!! (insert minor melt down…) These tend to be some of the thoughts that I hear people go through the first time they start to lead a team.

HELLO Imposter Syndrome – nice to see you again! Welcome to the club of women (and some men!) who experience this every day. Imposter Syndrome can present itself in many ways and on very different occasions – it is a “different strokes for different folks”, kinda syndrome this one! Ever had that all-encompassing feeling of self-doubt, that feeling that everyone around you is questioning your ability, or your worth? That, my friend, is the ever-pesky Imposter Syndrome kicking into gear.

I used to be terrible for this and was the absolute epitome of what Imposter Syndrome stands for. And then one day, I realised something.  Not one person actually told me that I couldn’t do something, or that I wasn’t capable. In fact, quite the opposite. It was all in my head.  I was the one who told myself I wasn’t capable.

Are you reading this wondering if Imposter Syndrome has sunk its pesky little claws into you?

 

Here’s what Imposter Syndrome might feel like:
  • Being 100% sure you are going to fail at almost anything you set out to;
  • Devaluing or being self-deprecating of your experience or expertise in front of others because someone else might appear more confident, more experienced, older, wiser, than you;
  • Feeling like a fraud and like someone is going to find out about you, or your lack of ability; or
  • Being sure that someone else’s leadership style, ability, confidence is better than yours.

Being promoted is a big deal, so firstly, well done!  Moving from an individual contributor role, where you are ultimately in control of your own deliverables, to a role where you are assisting a team of others to deliver is a big shift and it can feel overwhelming. But, don’t panic – here are some things for you to consider as part of your transition into a leadership role:

 

  1. Accept that there is not just one “awesome” leadership style – and STOP comparing yourself to others – YOU are also awesome.
  2. Be prepared for a little bit of awkwardness at first – Transitioning to a new role, let alone a leadership role will always be a little awkward. People get used to things being a certain way, and when things change, it can be a challenging for some people initially. Be ok with this.  It is not a reflection on your ability, it is just the process of change.
  3. Acknowledge that you had to play some part in your current success – it doesn’t all come down to luck, or whatever other B/S you have been kidding yourself that it is. You were promoted because something was seen in you – now get out of your own head and prove those people right!
  4. Ask your team what they look for in a good leader – this will not only show your team that you care, but also give a you a great insight into what support they are looking for from you.
  5. Call yourself out – when you experience the feelings of self-doubt, or like you aren’t doing a good job in your new role, call it Imposter Syndrome. Once you put a name on it, it almost makes it easier to accept. Now that you have accepted it, squash the self-deprecating thoughts and move the F**k on!
  6. Get a wing-woman – whether you have someone in your life you can do this with, or you need to consider seeking out a coach, or a mentor, get someone to help call you out on these feelings and put the actions in place that you need to (in addition to the above) to get you past it.

 

Moving into a leadership role can feel scary, a bit awkward (particularly when you are now managing people who you used to be hierarchically equal to), and you start to feel like your days have a very different meaning and purpose.  Don’t panic. This is not a reflection on you, or your abilities – this is just the awkwardness of transitioning to a new role. Be confident. Be brave and believe that you were given this opportunity because you CAN do it.

 

If despite following the above advice, you are still feeling like you are suffering from Imposter Syndrome, perhaps it is time to invest in yourself to learn how to manage it.  I can help. 

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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