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10 things I learnt this year that helped me get the f*ck out of my own way……

Can you believe another year has nearly come to an end!! Was 2018 what you hoped it would be? Did you put yourself out there as much you said you would in January? What did you achieve this year personally and professionally? Have you stepped forward and out of your comfort zone, or have you played it safe and are just getting through each day (if you are doing this, we need to talk!!)?

Below are the 10 major things that I have learnt this year and wanted to share with you – they’ve formed the basis of a lot of my blogs this year based on conversations I have had with people, challenges I have personally faced, and most definitely lessons that I have learnt along the way. If any of these points really resonate with you, then I suggest you click the “READ THIS” links next to them that will take you to my wider thoughts on the topic.

As the year comes to a close, do yourself the favour of taking some time out to reflect on your year – what worked, what didn’t and above all else, what did you learn? If you aren’t happy, remember, you have a choice.

Also, hopefully you are having a bit of a break over the festive season, so what a great opportunity to refresh yourself on some of the “Best of” 2018 Eating your Cake too blog posts!

MY LESSONS FROM 2018…..

  1. If you don’t ask, you don’t get…. If you miss out on an opportunity that you didn’t put yourself out there for in the first place, that is your fault. No one else’s. You have two options now. Throw your toys out of the cot and sulk or get back up and learn a lesson – ask for what you want.  You have to take responsibility for your own life – deferring it to others gives you a scapegoat and a reason to blame when it doesn’t work out –READ THIS, ALSO READ THIS , AND FINALLY, READ THIS
  1. You need to be relentless in the pursuit of your own goals – It takes courage to put yourself out there and be brave about what you want. It also takes work. A lot of work. Putting your goals on a piece of paper or on a pretty vision board isn’t enough. You have to consciously work at them every day. And check yo’self to make sure you haven’t gotten too comfortable. Comfort and routine feels good, it feels nice – but it is often where the safe play and where the safe get stuckREAD THIS
  1. Be kind and don’t judge others – Just because others may live a life differently to you, doesn’t make it wrong. What is wrong, is judging them based on your own values set. We need to stick together, not tear each other down. Every time you judge another person for what they say, or don’t say, wear or don’t wear, look at yourself in the mirror – you are the one with the issue, not them.READ THIS
  1. But also remember, you can only help people so much –Always lend an ear when people need to talk. Be supportive, take time and help where you can, but acknowledge that some people don’t want to get out of their own way, and that is their responsibility, not yours.  READ THIS.
  1. There is plenty of awesomeness to go around – STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! There is no awesomeness tap – you can be just as fabulous as the person next to you. Comparing yourself to others just makes you miserable and chews up time you could of been spending on improving yourself.  Compete with yourself every day. Beat yourself every day. But not those around you. READ THIS
  1. Relationships are the most important thing in getting what you need, both professionally and personally. If you treat people like sh*t and then want their help, do you really think they’ll be there? READ THIS
  1. You cannot be all things, to all people, all the time. You are one person and saying no when you need to is OK. Also, not everyone will like you AND that is ok too! READ THIS  AND, READ THIS
  1. Make time every day for yourself, and yourself only, even 10 minutes – there is only so long you can last doing everything for everyone else, except for you. Take the time to get to know yourself. What are your triggers, what gets you excited? What gets you up in the morning? The more you know about yourself, the better you will be as a human being. READ THIS.
  1. Don’t’ ever be too proud to ask for help – it is not asking for it when you need it that makes you a tool! READ THIS
  1. Don’t do things for people on the basis that you expect they will for you in return. Everyone is different and if you’re only doing something for someone in the hope you will receive it back, when it doesn’t happen, you’ll just be resentful for something you expected from them, that was ultimately self-serving and that they may not even be aware of. READ THIS
  1. And finally (yes, I know I said 10, but I’ve added a bonus lesson!) – YOU CAN Get the f*ck out of your own way– you were given the opportunity, or the challenge that you were for a reason – you’ve got this, you CAN do it, so make the most of it! You are on this earth once, for one blimp in the existence of the whole world. You can look at that as a sad fact, or something really powerful – something that sparks you to make a change in the 30,000 days you have here to make it.

If there is something in you that just wants a little more. If there is something in you that knows there must be more to what you are experiencing now, but you don’t know what it is. If you aren’t sad, but you definitely aren’t happy – talk to me.  I can help you. I can help you wake up in the morning excited to take on the day. I can help you build the confidence you need to ask for what you want. I can help you gain clarity on what your career path could, should and can be.

But….the first step starts with you to decide that you are done being in your own way.

Claire Seeber
Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way! 
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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The scary wake-up call I had that made me realise I was practising self-care all wrong!!!!

I want to ask you a question.

Have you ever felt upset, disgruntled or undervalued because you weren’t considered for something? It might have been a job opportunity, a promotion, a stretch task or project, or even just to get involved in something outside of your usual fold?

Now…. I want you to think of these examples and reflect on whether you had ever made it known previously to anyone that you were interested in job opportunity “a”, or that you wanted to be considered for promotion “b”, or, that you were interested in being given the chance to take on more work in example “c”?

I often speak to people who are upset or disgruntled by the fact that they haven’t been offered, handed even, a particular opportunity. Yet, when I ask them if they have ever mentioned their interest in said opportunity, whether they had ever voiced it to their manager, a colleague, or even a friend – the answer is often a resounding NO.

Often, it is as if the expectation is on others to read the mind of this person and their unique ambitions, aspirations or areas they might want to get involved in that are outside their norm.
This is what I then often see happen.  The person who feels they were passed over or ignored for an opportunity becomes progressively more and more resentful, unhappy or disgruntled – at this point still not having said anything about their interest in one of the examples provided above, but expect still that their manager, colleagues, or friends should just know.

Am I suggesting that managers don’t own some responsibility for understanding and appreciating the unique aspirations and development goals of their people? Absolutely not. And if you’re curious about my thoughts on what makes a good leader, then you should see this list in my recent blog post about that they don’t tell you before you become a manager, but what you NEED to consider. CLICK HERE. 

But, peeps – this isn’t enough. Leaving your goals and dreams in the hands completely of others is not the answer. It gives you a scapegoat. It gives you someone to blame when those dreams don’t come true. When YOUR dreams don’t come true. And it gives you a reason to be unhappy or become resentful.

It is so important to your own success that you put yourself out there when it comes to your goals and aspirations. It is critical that you have conversations with people about where you want to go and what you want to achieve in your career. Or, if you don’t know what this is, it is just as important that you have those conversations too. Why? Because then you can be kept in mind for opportunities to try new things.

Am I saying that by making your goals and aspirations known that the next time a promotion opportunity comes around, it will be yours on a platter? No, I am not. But, I am saying that by putting yourself out there you are in great stead for that opportunity, or atleast will gain valuable feedback and development advice on what you need to do to try and attain that opportunity, which you may not have had if you had not made your goals known.

YOU are the only one in control of your life. Your career. Your path. Although your manager, your colleagues and your friends play a part in your life, they are not responsible for what you achieve.

Do you need clarity over what your goals and dreams are?  Have you considered what career path you want? Where you want to go or how to get there, either professionally or personally? Maybe you need a discovery session to start to distill some of your mental clutter. 

I am currently offering discovery packages at HALF PRICE!! That’s right, 50% OFF! Think 2019 is your year to kick some a**??? Then contact me to learn more about how a discovery session will help you. 

NOTE: I only work with people who are really ready to take control of their lives and get out of their own ways!

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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The scary wake-up call I had that made me realise I was practising self-care all wrong!!!!

When was the last time you really put yourself out there? Seriously! When was the last time you could feel your adrenaline pumping because you were doing something that made you nervous or uncomfortable? It might have been presenting in front of a group of people, putting an idea on the table that you hadn’t shared before, maybe a job interview, or maybe a first date?

Your comfort zone is a behavioural space where your activities fit a chosen routine that ultimately minimises your stress and risk. It provides you with a state of mental security. The routine is then reinforced because you experience regular happiness, low anxiety and reduced stress. If we are experiencing happiness, minimal to no anxiety and little to no stress, why the f*ck would I mess with that, I hear you say?

Because…. Healthy levels of stress and anxiety is where the magic happens! Interestingly though, to ensure you experience a good amount of “stretch” you need to consciously put yourself out there – that can be where alot of us fall down from time to time and that is where we can find ourselves in a bit of a rut.

 In order to maximise our performance, some anxiety is necessary (Yes, I did just say that!) — a space where our stress levels are slightly higher than normal. This space is called “Optimal Anxiety”, and it’s just outside our comfort zone.

Check out this TED Talk by Matt Cutts and see if you’re motivated to get out of your comfort zone! It is only 3 minutes long, but gives you a truck load of reasons why hitting that point of optimal anxiety is so important to your continued growth and development. CLICK HERE

Can’t remember the last time you put yourself out there or did something that made you even just a little bit uncomfortable? Maybe you are in a bit or rut.  Ask yourself these questions and reflect on these statements:

* Do you often use words like “just getting through the day”, or do your days generally start to feel like you have achieved very little?
* If you answered the question of “How are you?” genuinely, it would be something along the lines of “Meh”?
* You sort of know something doesn’t feel quite right within, but you just aren’t sure what it is?
* You often feel like you are on autopilot?
* You almost always feel tired –when you get up in the morning you are already counting down until you can be back in bed.
* You often day dream about a different reality, but don’t have the energy to do anything about it.

In need of a little shake up to get you back on track? That’s OK, we’ve all been there! First things first, watch the TED Talk I have mentioned above. Secondly, see if you can action these steps to help you.

1) Understand your current comfort zone – what is your current routine? Are you working long hours where you are woken up by coffee and put to bed by wine? You have little energy left for exercise at the end of your day so you just flop on the couch and watch Netflix night after night after night? Once you understand what your current “rut routine” looks like you can start to work out how to break it down.

2) Set yourself some small goals to get you up and about again, and eventually increase them in stretch – if you are living the above life I’ve just mentioned, maybe a small goal for you initially is to use one night a week to get out and catch up with a friend or make a phone call to a family member. Set small goals initially, but STICK to them – this will help you build back some momentum as you’ll be enjoying the good vibes that come with doing something for yourself and something outside of your rut routine. If you just watched Matt Cutts TED talk, you can now start to think of what you want to do with your next 30 days of challenges.

3) GET UP!! Nothing will rejuvenate you quite like some fresh air and the blood pumping again around your body. Even if it is only 10 minutes a day, don’t ever let a day go by where you haven’t been outside – and NO walking from your car to the house or the office does not count!

4) Talk to someone – Sometimes just “offloading” about how you are feeling can do you the world of good, and there are many people who would be happy to lend an ear. If you are feeling a sense of overwhelm on where to start, perhaps speak to a professional, whether it be a counselor, psychologist or a coach (Hi!!) who can help you start unpacking what is going on for you and help you create some goals to move forward.

5) Review the balance wheel and make sure you have something to look forward to in ALL areas of your life – not sure what the balance wheel is or where to start ? Flick me an email and I will happily send it through to you so you can check yo-self!

Most importantly, if you realise you might be in a bit of a rut, do not feel like you are alone, or that you need to be stuck here. We all have down periods from time to time, but it is important that you take the necessary steps to get yourself back on track and enjoying a life full of healthy balance and optimal stress that comes from pushing yourself in a healthy manner.

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The overwhelm. The career confusion. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life.  Ask me for more info on how I can help you at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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The scary wake-up call I had that made me realise I was practising self-care all wrong!!!!

These last few weeks have been a mixed bag of goodies for me. On the one hand I have seen some of my clients achieve some amazing things just by putting themselves out there and being vulnerable.  On the other hand, I have seen some of the closest people in my life go through some of the toughest times in their lives.

In all of these situations though, one thing has remained consistent – the power of vulnerability.  The power of putting yourself out there and being raw and truthful about what is going on for you – whether that is putting your opinions out on the table for the first time, or having the courage to say no to someone or something. Perhaps it is just the courage to say to the people around you that you need their help.

So often in society vulnerability gets mistaken as a weakness. I think it is the absolute opposite. The people who are vulnerable enough to say what they mean and to say what they need, and who accept that they don’t have all the answers – these people are the strongest of them all. These people are the ones we should aspire to.  Vulnerability is not a weakness, it is the most accurate measurement of courage. The people who are brave enough to put themselves out there without any control over what an outcome might be, are stronger than those of us who fear anyone seeing us in any manner apart from the carefully curated version of “perfect” that we spend so much time tuning and tweaking and filtering.

 

As I write this blog, it has made me reflect on how important it is to choose courage over fear. It sounds so obvious and so easy, but often in the moment it is not. Because often to be courageous we have to be vulnerable. We have to admit that we might not have all the answers and we might not have all of our sh*t together in the way that we like people to think we do.  How many of us can truly say that we choose courage over fear every time? That we let fear of the unknown rule over the courage to seize the new opportunities in front of us.

 

How often do we take the leap of faith? Take the deep breath and ask the tough question? Say yes to something when every part of us is yelling out no? It is those 10 seconds, where we could go either way, that ultimately have the power to shape the direction of our lives. 10 seconds of bravery or vulnerability could completely change the course of your life.

 

Three questions to ask yourself, each time you feel that you might be letting fear overtake courage.

 

Firstly, what is the worst thing that can happen to you if you select courage over fear in whatever the current situation might be?

Secondly, what is the true likelihood that the worst thing that could happen, will actually happen?

Thirdly, what could you, or would you do to reverse things, if the worst thing above actually DID happen? What could you do to fix it?

 

These all sound fairly simple, but if you work through these steps mentally each time you are thinking about doing something that takes courage, or something that you haven’t done before, you will instantly feel more confident. Why? Because you have already worked out in your head that even if the worst of the worst does come true, you CAN fix it, you WILL grow from it, and you WILL be ok.

 

If you need some more inspo, check out this amazing and inspirational TED talk by Brene Brown all about the Power of Vulnerability – I promise you, it is 20 minutes well spent! https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

Now…..what will be the first thing that you consciously push forward with courage in, and seize the opportunity of the unknown, instead of the fear of it??

 

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life.

Much Love,
Claire Seeber


Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way! 
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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Welcome to our ‘Real Women’ Interview Series with Charlene Perera!

The scary wake-up call I had that made me realise I was practising self-care all wrong!!!!

We all know this person – someone bumps into them in the street and they say sorry.  Someone might forget to call them back, respond to their email etc and they end up being the one apologising saying they should have followed up again. The person who will assume they were the last person in line at the bar and will let the other 4 people around them go first even though they have been there longer. You might know this person. You might even be this person. Why? Because all you want is just to be liked.  If you are liked by people then you must be doing something right.

 

Do you ever hold back your opinion on something with fear you might upset someone? And if you upset them then they might not like you anymore? And then the thought of someone not liking you creeps in – if someone doesn’t like me does that mean people will think I’m not good at my job? Does that mean that people will think I am not a good person? Does that mean my ability to progress will be stunted?  All these thoughts come rolling in like a steam train and before you know it you’ve just missed a great opportunity to put forward your point of view. F*ck, I am exhausted just re-reading these two paragraphs.

 

Wanting to be liked is normal. I don’t think any human being goes through life actually wanting to be disliked.  But the issue is when this need to be liked gets in the way of us being true to ourselves, or really showcasing who we are with fear that people might not like that person.

 

Newsflash. Not everyone will like you.  Ouch, but true.  And guess what else? You wont like everyone either.

 

The longer we remain more concerned with others approval, which, by the way, is completely out of our control, the less time we are spending on being comfortable in our own skin and happy with who the f*ck we actually are.

 

Here’s what can happen once you rid yourself of the burden that you must be liked by everyone you meet and you embrace the fact that you won’t be:

 

 

  • You feel at ease and more comfortable in your own skin – once you stop giving a f*ck whether every Tom, Dick and Harry likes you, you feel a sense of freedom to really be you – and it feels good.

 

  • You become more confident and comfortable to say NO – Why? Because you are no longer stressing about the fact that if you say no to someone it will mean they don’t like you anymore. You become confident in saying no, offering an alternative to still be helpful but without compromising your own work or your own priorities like you would have in the past.

 

  • You will have more time back in your life – when you stop caring so much what others think you will find you naturally have more time in your day. How? Because the chances are your people pleasing behaviour was causing you to spread yourself too thinly to please everyone. On top of that, you were likely overthinking your interactions with everyone too and whether they liked the support you gave on a project, whether they appreciated you staying back to help them etc. STOP OVERTHINKING – click here for how to.

 

  • You share your opinion more freely – When you no longer tailor your thoughts and opinions to those around you, you are able to freely share what is on your mind because you are no longer catering to the thinking of others.
  • When people don’t like you, agree with your opinions, your style etc, atleast you know you have had some sort of impact on them and their lives. When you are a people pleaser you aren’t in any position to leave an impact on anyone because they don’t really have any idea who you are. Why? Because you are not being you – you are being who you think they would like.

 

 

It is ok to want to be liked – that is natural, but not at the expense of who you are and what you are all about. Next time you worry if someone might not like you, really ask yourself
a) what is the big deal if they don’t? and;
b) what control do you really have over that anyway?

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. Need help? Contact me at  youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and let’s see how I can help you.  Our first phone consultation is completely obligation free.

Much Love,
Claire Seeber


Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au

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Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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5 steps on HOW to be Confident when you are stating your Salary expectations!

So…… it sounds like my last blog post hit a bit of a nerve in a lot of people and how difficult it can be to ask for what you want. Thank you for the kind words and the awesome feedback on the blog – this is what keeps me going and gives me a feel for what people want to hear!  Last fortnights blog was specifically related to how to state your salary expectations with confidence and my experience of women not being great at this. If you haven’t read it yet, check it out here.

What this article seemed to open up though was a range of different areas in peoples lives where they do not feel confident or comfortable to ask for what they want. Examples that have come through to me have been around things like flexibility in working days, or hours, the confidence to ask for more responsibility, and even the confidence to ask for some (by the sounds of it, well deserved) annual leave!

Although the 5 steps that I gave in my last blog can be relevant in a lot of ways to anything that you want to ask for, here are a couple of suggestions for things that you can do to confidently prepare yourself to ask for what you want that might not specifically be about salary.

1) Ask yourself these questions beforehand:

 

Do you think your request is reasonable?

 

If it is related to work – is it fair, researched and not emotionally based?

 

Would you do it for someone else if they asked you?

 

What is the worst that could happen by you making this request? Literally, the worst-case scenario? (hint: usually it is just that the answer is NO!)

 

Asking yourself these questions first is really important.  Why? Because it allows rational you to come forward and layer another perspective on things. It helps you remove emotion and fear as to whether what you are asking for is truly reasonable. Just because we want something, doesn’t always make it reasonable. Going through this thought process gives you the opportunity to really reflect on that. I would LOVE to work from a Greek island with a cocktail and masseuse on call for a year, but unfortunately if I reflect on it rationally, for my role, it is probably not a reasonable request (Daaaammmnnn!!).

 

The most important question to ask yourself here also is “What is the worst that could happen from asking for what you want?”. We often work ourselves up so much to ask for something that we then don’t even ask for it because we’ve already convinced ourselves that it will never happen. Remove some of the fear by asking yourself what the worst thing is that could happen.

 

 

2) Be clear and practice hearing yourself ask for what you want before you do it

Yes, I did just suggest you practice asking for what you want – possibly in a mirror of some sort, or at the very least out loud. Why did I suggest that? Because that way when the words come out of your mouth for the first time you wont panic at what you’ve just asked and downplay the request, or worse yet take the request back! Be clear in what you are asking for and why (which you will be after doing step 1) and then ensure that you have thought about how you are going to ask.

3) Watch your body language

Be aware of your body language when asking for what you want.  Are you hunched over with your face talking to the ground and your request is barely heard? Are your arms crossed? Are you biting your nails or twirling your flippin’ hair?  Or, are you standing/sitting up straight with a positive tone, good eye contact (not a stare contest!) asking for what you want? This TED Talk by Amy Cuddy was shared with me a little while ago and it is a great talk all about the power of body language. Check it out here. It is 20 minutes well spent!

 

 

 

4) Don’t fall in a heap if the answer is NO

Here’s the hard truth. You won’t always get what you want. Sometimes the answer will be NO. But, before you let yourself fall in heap and believe that the world is out to get you (oh boy, have I been here!), consider this – a NO is not a personal rejection. Accept it for what it is and move forward. If you aren’t clear on why the response was no, then absolutely seek clarity. Ask if there is anything you could do to find a middle ground, or is there perhaps a timeframe where the request could be revisited. But, once this is discussed, and if the answer is still no, don’t wallow, don’t drown yourself in negativity – be graceful and move on.

 

 

 

5) Know your values and what is most important to you

This is probably the most important step of all. Understanding what is important to you – I cannot beat this drum hard enough. If you know what the most important things to you are and what your values are, then you will know how to deal with a no that could come your way. You will know if that is just a minor set-back, or is it a full-blown case of “its time to reassess”. If you need some help working out what this is for you, check out one of my older posts which might help.

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. Need help? Contact me at  youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and let’s see how I can help you.  Our first phone consultation is completely obligation free.

Much Love,
Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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My last two blog posts have been a lot about why I no longer make New Years Resolutions and why I think you can achieve greater success without them through committing to longer term goals and then reviewing them regularly.  Did you miss them – Check them out here and here!

Part of the success of goal setting is ultimately creating a plan for success. It is all good and well to have the vision and goals, but without the plan in place to make them happen they are really just wish lists on a page or in your head. Also, your goals and vision should ultimately be underpinned by your values – these are what YOU consider to be the most important things in your life.

Therefore, as an example, if you are saying the most important things in your life are your family, friends and health, then your vision for what your life looks like should also be aligned to these, as should the plan you then put in place to achieve them.  Often though, this is where we fall down. We create these amazing vision boards, goals lists etc, but we don’t commit to the changes we need to make in order to then achieve them. 

Show me your schedule and I will show you your values.

I used to fall victim to this ALL the time.  I would say to myself regularly that my health and my relationships were hands down the most important things to me, yet day after day I would roll late from work exhausted, grumpy, and often having barely eaten for the day. I wouldn’t make plans at night because I’d assume I would have to work. Then, because I didn’t make any plans, I would work. It was a vicious cycle, but one I did to myself because I didn’t truly prioritise my values and I didn’t plan on how to deal with any obstacles that got in my way.

If I printed off my schedule back then and bucketed it up into the key themes, absolutely it would be made up of approx 60% work (that includes actual work, thinking about work, and then overthinking about work!), 30% rest/sleep and maybe 10% time for recreation.  Zero time allotted to exercise, or development and growth. I did this to myself though.  I allowed this to happen by not having clear boundaries to prioritise the things most important to me (and by allowing myself to overthink – if you think that might be you, check this blog post out on Overthinking!).

I dare you to do this little exercise over the next few weeks. Keep a log each day of where your hours go. Split them into the following buckets.

  • Work
  • Rest
  • Relationships (Family and friends) + Play
  • Exercise
  • Development and Growth (e.g reading, learning, meditation etc)

See where you land at the end of 3 weeks and where you find your time gets spent. This will tell you your values as they currently stand.

Reflect on this log. Is it where you want it to be? Are there areas of opportunity? If so, what are they and what are you going to do about them? What changes will you make to get your schedule back in alignment with your values?  I would love to hear from you on what you have found – email me at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

This exercise is also not to say that there wont be times where your work load might be heavy and you might be “tilting” towards work more than you usually would. That is ok – it is when this lifestyle or schedule becomes the norm for us and we become completely out of sync with our own priorities that we need to step back, breathe and make some changes.

If you want to know more about what “tilting means, check out this link where I quote the article as one of my slices of inspo. CLICK HERE.

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman. Need help? Contact me at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and let’s see how I can help you.  Our first phone consultation is completely obligation free.

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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New year, new you, right?? Noooooooppppppeee. You are still you every year, as you should be. So instead of using every new year as an opportunity to start again, change ourselves, or block out the past, why don’t we consider something different? Need more reasons to cut the crap on New Year’s resolutions? Check out my last blog post – it gives you atleast 4! CLICK HERE

Each day is a blessing, not just each new year. Instead of wiping the slate clean each year, we should be taking the lessons from each year and each day into the next. Use each year to continue to build on yourself and grow, not “start again” or be a “new you”. If you do that every year, you’ll be a new person every 12 months. You won’t give yourself the chance to be authentic, or to be truly vulnerable as to what your areas of opportunity for growth are because you are too busy wiping the slate clean to start again.

Here are 10 pieces of inspo that I have found hugely valuable in helping me keep momentum year on year on my goals and my vision for my own life. These little pieces of inspo will help you get the fu*k out of your own way! (P.s Nothing listed below is a paid endorsement – these are all just videos, books, articles etc I have found helpful, and hopefully you will too).

1) The book entitled “The Life Plan” by Shannah Kennedy – this book has largely contributed to my own ‘lightbulb’ moments a few years ago where I realised how important it was to have a life plan if you really wanted to maximise what you got out of your 30,000 days on earth.

2) This epic TED Talk by Brene Brown all about The Power of Vulnerability – https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability . This TED Talk is a great reminder about why it is ok to be authentic and vulnerable. You don’t have to have all the answers, you just keep building towards them.

3) This article by The Collective to remind you about why trying to achieve work/life balance is a myth and quite frankly just EXHAUSTING – Here is “What are happy women doing differently? The Power of Tilting” – https://collectivehub.com/2017/02/what-are-happy-women-doing-differently/

4) Get yourself a coach or an a**-kicker to help keep you on track – I have been blessed enough to have had a couple of coaches over the last few years and my lesson is this…. It is SO important that you find a coach that you feel “gets” you. If you aren’t on the same wave length, it isn’t going to work. I have had good and bad coaching experiences – not because they weren’t good, but because I don’t think they were the right coach for me at that time, or they weren’t aligned with who I was and what I was about.  Don’t like the idea of a coach? Then find yourself a trusted and truthful friend who will hold you to account on your goals and commitments.

5) Work out what your non-negotiables are and STICK to them! Is family the most important thing in your life? Then why are you not creating boundaries to make sure you are home in time to spend quality time with them each night? Health your number one priority? Then create space for exercise and stick to it.

6) Make your goals visible! Once you have a plan on what your life goals look like, and you have decided on what your non-negotiables are – MAKE THEM VISIBLE! Whether this is through a vision board that you continue to update (it should be a live piece of work, not something static that never gets refreshed), or you program your phone to remind you of your goals each day, whatever works for you – just make it visible and something you continue to be reminded of.

7) Start NOW and just keep going! Sometimes we build our goals up in our heads to be so big that we then don’t know where to start – so then we don’t start! The way to keep momentum and to keep inspired is to just keep going. Keep taking small steps to your goals and celebrate the wins along the way – that way you’ll maintain momentum and you will be able to keep your eye on the prize.

8) Don’t procrastinate – EAT THAT FROG! Ever heard of the phrase “Eat that frog”? It basically means to eat the ugliest, worst looking frog in your day first – or, complete the worst, ugliest task that you have to do, straight away. It will help create a sense of achievement early on in your day and then help you avoid procrastination for the remainder of it. Check out Brian Tracey’s book “Eat that Frog” if you haven’t read it before.

 
9) Get yourself some role models that align with your values – Who are the people you look up to? Aspire to? Get yourself some clear role models and in times when you are feeling unmotivated or uninspired think about what these people would do. Would they sit on the couch feeling sorry for themselves? Unlikely. They would be up and about tackling the issue head on. Research your role models and understand how they live their lives. Then channel your inner role model.

 
10) Finally, remember this ….“Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” Unknown.

 
I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman. Need help? Contact me at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and let’s see how I can help you.  Our first phone consultation is completely obligation free.

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

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Ever since I knew what a New Year’s resolution was, I have made them. Every year, after I have recovered from what is usually a champagne induced hangover, I would sit down and think about what my new year’s resolutions for that year were. What would I achieve this year? What was I SO SURE that this year I would nail, or do differently.

Year on year, it was the same things. Get skinny (haha, I LOL at this one now!), save more money, and usually something around creating more “me time”, or being a “better person”. Do you know what the common theme by the end of January was?  I hadn’t followed through on a single resolution. By February I was most definitely NOT skinny, I had probably spent more money than I usually would, and I had not carved out any time for myself, or had become a “better” person.

Why do I think I failed every year?  Because I set myself up to fail from the start! I was never invested enough in these “resolutions” for them ever to work.  I never had a plan for them. I never knew what success actually looked like. And if these resolutions were supposedly SO important to me, why did I wait to the start of a new year to decide to commit to them? Why didn’t I just start the day I decided that they were important to me? I know why. Because I didn’t really know what each one meant. I hadn’t dug deep enough to know why these things were important to me and therefore I didn’t have the true energy and dedication to push on with them.

So, this year I’m calling bullshit on new year’s resolutions and I am politely telling them to go shove it! I also think you should too and here is why.

New Year’s resolutions give you an excuse to wait. Ever been that person that has said “I’ll start eating healthy from Monday”, or “I’ll start back with my exercise regime from Monday”. This is the exact same thing, except worse because you generally prolong the change for a greater period of time with new year’s resolutions. When you decide something is important enough to create a new habit for, or to make a change, commit to it then and there – don’t wait.

New Year’s resolutions make you place unnecessary pressure on yourself to develop huge, life changing resolutions that you then beat yourself up about when you can’t commit to them. We build and build and build up to these great, big, sweeping statements about how our lives will be so different this year because of these changes, yet if we just continued with our momentum and building on our habits all year round, we would find we achieve a far stronger result without all the pressure of the “New Year, New You” cycle.

New Year’s resolutions often aren’t SMART. Recall my ridiculous resolutions above. What does “get skinny” even mean? Firstly, it’s a stupid resolution because I know I don’t really want to do that, so I have stuffed myself from the start. When we develop goals, we need to make them SMART goals. If I wanted to lose weight – how much? By when? Is that realistic? Understand the specifics of your goal so you know when you have achieved it, or you will always feel like you’ve failed because you never considered upfront what success was.

You plan to fail when you fail to plan. It’s awesome that you have now come up with your goals, you’ve made them SMART and you know what success looks like. But, that still isn’t enough. How will you achieve the goal? What shifts will you make in your life, your schedule, your values etc to achieve the goal? Let’s go back to the “get skinny” resolution that failed year on year. Why? Because I never actually put a plan in place on what I was going to do differently. I never created space in my life or my calendar to exercise. I never made the conscious effort to meal prep, or book in exercise classes, get a gym buddy, etc. I just relied on this sweeping statement to pull me through without any real sacrifice or planning going into it. If one of your goals is create more time for yourself in the morning – great! Brilliant goal! But, how will you do it? What will you change? Who will make you get up earlier? And what will you now do with that time? What does a successful morning look like to you?

Instead of creating loose, surface level, ill-conceived, New Year’s resolutions that may see you fall into the 92% of people who do not follow through on them, try something different this year.
Also, check out my previous blog post on “Are you a Bullshit artist?”   CLICK HERE to see how to stick to them!

Consider the 3 P’s.

  1. Purpose – Understand what YOU want. What is YOUR purpose?
  1. Putting your goals on paper – Not just your goals for the year, your goals in life! This should be something you really think about and take the time to invest in. From there you reflect and review it regularly.
  1. Prioritise them – We often talk about procrastination when talk about our job, or the number of tasks we need to get done during the day. Yet, for some reason when it comes to putting our personal goals on paper and what we want to achieve out of our lives, we don’t allow ourselves the option to prioritise. We have already put ourselves last. If you want to achieve your goals, not just at the start of every year, but every day of your life, then you MUST prioritise them.

Check out these steps in more detail here – https://eatingyourcaketoo.com.au/ignorethehaters/

I work with a number of women coaching them on how to work out what they value, what their goals are, how to set them, prioritise them and then get out of their own way!

If you are interested in having a personal trainer for your life and your personal or professional goals, then let’s chat – youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

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You walk into a room and take a seat at the meeting table. Everyone else gradually trickles in ready to get started. They seem so relaxed. So confident. The meeting works its way around the room with everyone sharing what is going on for them – successes for the week, what they are doing really well in, sounding like they know exactly what they are talking about. And you sit there.  Sit there. Still sitting there. Waiting for your turn. But not just waiting for your turn to speak. Waiting for your turn when they will find out. They will find out that you’re a fraud. That you’re not capable. That you are an imposter. 

Say HELLO to Imposter Syndrome, and welcome to the club of women (and some men!) who experience this every day. Although only formally conceived as a term in the 1970’s, Imposter Syndrome is without doubt a syndrome we have been feeling for years before this.  Have you ever had that all-encompassing feeling of self-doubt, often just as you are about to speak, or pitch or present on something and you are just waiting for those around you to realise you are a fake. Sound like you? Then here is your VIP membership love, welcome to the club.

Why do we do this to ourselves? And, where does it come from?

Often, I see women with a fear of putting themselves out there in case they are wrong. A fear of asking for something in case they don’t get it, or are told NO. A fear of not putting their hand up for that promotion just so that they can get some “more experience” first, or another qualification to help them validate that they know their sh*t. WHY? Why don’t we just have faith in our own abilities and the fact that our knowledge and capability is what got us to where we are today, therefore it must be worth something, right?!

I used to be terrible for this, and was the absolute epitome of what Imposter Syndrome stands for. And then one day, I realised something.  Not one person actually told me that I couldn’t do something, or that I wasn’t capable. It was all in my head.  I was the one who told myself I wasn’t capable.

Imposter Syndrome can manifest itself in many ways, including;

  • Being 100% sure you are going to fail at almost anything you set out to;
  • Devaluing your experience or expertise because someone else might appear more confident, more experienced, older, wiser, than you;
  • Feeling like a fraud and like someone is going to find out about you; or
  • Being sure that someone else’s presentation style, pitch ability, confidence with conflict or debate is better than yours.

But the good news is, there is a community of women here to help you beat it. High profile C-Suite executives including Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook have quoted their own Imposter Syndrome before. Even celebrities like Tina Fey and Meryl Streep have opened up about feeling like frauds who were sure they were going to be “caught out”.

So, what can you do to beat Imposter Syndrome??

  1. Accept that there is no cap on how many people can be awesome, and STOP comparing yourself to others – YOU are also awesome.
  2. Acknowledge that you had to play some part in your current success – it doesn’t all come down to luck, or whatever other B/S you have been kidding yourself that it is.
  3. Keep notes of the positive compliments that you receive and read them back when you need reassurance that you aren’t a fraud.
  4. Realise that at the end of the day we are all just trying to make sense of everything together. If you think you are an imposter, then so is everyone around you!
  5. Call yourself out – when you experience these feelings, call it Imposter Syndrome. Once you put a name on it, it almost makes it easier to accept. Now squash the self-deprecating thoughts and move the F on!
  6. Get a wing-woman – whether you have someone in your life you can do this with, or you need to consider seeking out a coach, get someone to help call you out on these feelings and put the actions in place that you need to (in addition to the above) to get you past it.

So often the chances we miss out on are the ones that we never took because we didn’t think we could, think we were ready to, think we were experienced enough, had the qualification that we probably didn’t need, or that we would be successful if we took it. If you need some help getting past Imposter Syndrome, feel free to reach out to me and let’s help you get out of your own way.  

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

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Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

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I am a bit late on the blog post front this fortnight -sorry peeps!! I was fortunate enough last week to get an invitation to the Victorian Telstra Women’s Business Awards for 2017, and it was one of the most inspirational events I have ever been to. I did not know a soul except for the wonderful woman who invited me, and quite frankly I was super nervous. But, I didn’t let this stop me from accepting the invitation. I took the opportunity over the fear of feeling nervous and potentially standing in the corner on my lonesome, and sh*t was I glad that I did.

 

This amazing night showcased so many women, doing so many amazingly inspirational things, and often with multiple other personal challenges testing them at the same time. It was another great eye opener of what you can achieve when you put courage, resilience and purpose first, and it added another piece to the perspective puzzle of life.

It was also a reminder for me of how easy it is to get into a rut, or a routine (but not the one you try to create, like the eating well and going to the gym type of routine!).  It is far easier to stay in your comfort zone, keep things ticking along and play it safe. One thing that these women all had in common though, was that none of them played it safe.  They worked out what made their hearts light up, what they felt like their purpose was, and they went for it.  Most of them had been in comfortable jobs that they woke up every morning and hated, or roles that didn’t light them up inside, but it took them just one big word to ultimately make a change in their lives that set them on a path that would change them for the better, and it has changed them forever – COURAGE.

 

The highlight of my night was listening to a speech by Holly Ransom. If you don’t know of Holly Ransom, here is a link to the long list of insane achievements that this powerhouse already has against her name. This speech hit me hard. It resonated with me, and actually moved me to tears at one point.

 

Holly’s speech covered many things, but most importantly it spoke about the importance of courage and the power of choosing it over fear.  It sounds so obvious, right? But how many of us can truly say that we choose it every time? That we select courage over fear. I know I choose fear sometimes even for things where I might not have that much skin in the game, or that might not even be a big deal – “let’s not go to that restaurant, it might not be good”, “let’s not go to that party – we don’t know anyone!”. These are all super simple examples of choosing fear over courage, and if we all dig deep, we can probably all think of examples in our day to day lives where we let fear of the unknown rule over courage to seize the new opportunities in front of us.  

 

What I loved about Holly’s speech was how she broke it down into three questions to ask yourself, each time you feel that you might be letting fear overtake courage.

 

Firstly, what is the worst thing that can happen to you if you select courage over fear in whatever the current example might be?

Secondly, what is the true likelihood that the worst thing that could happen, will actually happen?

Thirdly, what could you, or would you do to reverse things, if the worst thing above actually DID happen? What could you do to fix it?

 

These all sound fairly simple, but if you work through these steps mentally each time you are thinking about doing something that takes courage, or something that you haven’t done before, you will instantly feel more confident. Why? Because you have already worked out in your head that even if the worst of the worst does come true, you CAN fix it, you CAN reverse it, and you WILL be ok.

So, what will be the first thing that you consciously push forward with courage in, and seize the opportunity of the unknown, instead of the fear of it??

 

If you want to know more about some of these amazing and inspiring women, check out the link here to this year’s 2017 Telstra Business Women’s Awards finalists and winners.

 

Thank you also for your wonderful and kind words following my latest blog post around Overthinking (check it out here if you missed it)– it become very clear to me how many of us suffer from this at times mentally paralysing trait.

If you are genuinely looking for some help in how to manage your overthinking and how to use it is as a strength instead of a derailer, feel free to hit me up at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com for an obligation free chat about how we can help you get out of your own way.

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!

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We often talk about the importance of goal setting, life plans, and making sure you are consistently reviewing the short-term plans and goals to ensure they remain aligned to the long-term plan and goals blah, blah, blah.  Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE this sh*t! I have more books than a Dymocks Warehouse sale on personal development and creating life plans, but I still have this itching desire inside me to not make a plan, or atleast make a plan to not make a plan! Are you still following me?

 

I’m at the point in my life where I’ve done a reasonable amount of travel (never enough though!), have had a fortunate career thus far, and have a solid and steady group of wonderful friends and family – all of which I am eternally grateful for.  One thing that continues to urrrrk me though is that I’ve always had a plan. A plan to go to uni after school, a plan for when I finished uni, a plan to travel, a plan whilst travelling, a plan for when I got back from travel, a plan to save for a house, a plan to buy a house, – you can see where I’m going with this.

 

My point being, I’ve never just had unplanned time. Believe you me, I’ll have the standard hungover Sunday where you procrastinate most of the day and try to avoid the world, just to realise by 5pm you’ve done nothing and you did infact make no plans – however, you then feel guilty about it! This is not the kind of unplanned time I mean.  I’ve never really just gone with the flow and waited to see where the wind blew me for longer than just my hungover Sunday afternoon.

 

My question is – can this be done? Can you make a plan, not to plan? Have you ever done it?  How did you do it? What did you do with your unplanned time? I’d love to travel without any itinerary at all, go where my luggage takes me, as far as it will take me and for as long as it will take me. Meet people along the way and go with the flow.  I’d love to not work the standard 9-5pm for a while and then stumble across something that makes your heart light up and know that you are exactly where you are meant to be.  Unfortunately, though, often these “unplanned times”, can be considered in the current system as complacency or laziness – or, this is my favourite one…. “directionless”, and so people avoid this time, they avoid letting the heavens decide what is next because there are bills to pay, mortgages to meet, and a system that thrives off people making plans that are wound so tight that there is no flexibility to move or to change them.

 

You may have heard quotes like “failing to plan, is like planning to fail”.  I get that – and when I go to Coles without a list, or a plan, I most certainly DO fail, however, isn’t the reality of life that we really have no idea deep down what will happen and how that could throw all of our plans on their head with just a moment notice any way??? So, my advice to us all, and the advice that I will be taking for myself, is don’t plan every moment of your life – let some of it work itself out. A mentor of mine shared with me a great quote the other day around the importance of slowing down to speed up.  Be conscious of this unplanned time, and enjoy it.

 

Take the trip without the itinerary. Go for a drive without the map and see where you end up.  Go to the movies with no idea what you’ll see. Hell, turn up at the airport with no idea which plane you’ll get on. And, EMBRACE IT. Enjoy the spontaneity and the thrill of not knowing. Be sure to get out of your own way – and if you need another reason to do this, check out my recent blog post around “Are you your own problem?”.

 

Most of us like surprises – but, this is only when they are surprises that we want. When they are surprises we don’t want, we refer to them as problems.  Create more surprises that you WANT. Be in control of the good surprises as much as you can. Embrace the magic of planning to not plan.

 

If you have stories of times you have planned not to plan, or where your unplanned time has taken you, I would love to hear – flick me an email at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

 

Much Love,
Claire Seeber
Strong advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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