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What are relationship credits and why you need them for your career!?

When I was first introduced to the concept of “relationship credits” it felt wrong to me. I felt weird and it felt a little bit disingenuous to be honest. I didn’t understand how we could truly have authentic relationships that had a “credit bank” attached to them.

However, I see now that whether we like it not, all relationships have some sort of credit bank – some are just more conscious than others.

We give and we take to everyone we know. Sometimes we give more, sometimes we give less.  I have relationships with some people where I know I do 99% of the giving and very little taking. Others, I’m probably more of the taker. And then there are some that are a solid 50/50. You need them, and they need you, maybe at contrasting times, but consistently.

This blog article is going to focus more on the importance of strong and healthy relationships in the professional environment. You’ll walk away understanding why you need them and why it is important to invest conscious time in them.

 

Have you ever had someone ask you for a pretty reasonable sized favour, right out the blue and you barely even know them?  They’ve asked you to stop what you’re doing, put yourself on the back-burner and help them with something when you’ve barely had much to do with them before? This is where the value of relationship building and essentially where relationship credits come in to play. If you had a relationship with that person, maybe they’d helped you with something before, and now they are asking for your assistance in return, you don’t bat an eyelid. You get the ‘what goes around comes around’ merry-go-round.

Hold the phone for a second though.

The first scenario where you don’t know them at all, and they’ve asked you to inconvenience yourself to assist them might be a harder pill to swallow.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we shouldn’t just help people in the workplace because they are asking – of course we should – that is the reason why a lot of us have jobs – to help others in the business when they need us.

But, put it this way – you have two people who both need your services or assistance at the same time. You are only one person – therefore, you can only help one at a time.  Who do you go to first? The one you have a better relationship with, dah!  The one who invested time in getting to know you, thanks you for helping them, or may have even helped you before.

Whether you like it not, this is the way humans are wired. We are a relationship focussed bunch. All the relationship credit concept does, is bring this in to the light and make sure you are more consciously investing into the relationships that you need to in order to do your job well.

How and why should you consciously invest more in your professional relationships?

 

1) Firstly, if you work with the attitude of “people don’t matter, I’m just here to do my job”, then you are already on the back-foot. Change your mindset and change it quickly. Not only do people hire people they like, but people with strong and mutually beneficial two-way relationships tend to advance in business as well.

 

2) Make relationship development a standard part of your week – Make it a point to invest time with 3 or 4 people in your business and get to know them, what they do and what they‘re all about. A simple “how are you?” as you keep walking and don’t even hear the response is not enough – ya feel me?

 

3) Keep your networks with people you used to work with too – Make sure you invest time with previous colleagues and keep those relationships fresh – they might work somewhere you want to work someday, and you don’t want the first time they hear from you in 8 years to be when you are asking them for an introduction or a referral.

 

4) Be open to what you don’t know and that it might actually be of value to you – What you can learn from others, both professionally and personally can influence your career or your life. If you are so closed off to that and don’t get to know others, you don’t know what goodies or opportunities you could be missing out on.

 

Curious to know more about the relationship credit concept, or need help with your own career roadmap? Flick me a note at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and we can talk about how to set you up for success now and for your future.

 

If you need some help working out what your next career move is, I can help. I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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WARNING: This post includes reasonable levels of sarcasm. Enjoy ?

Due to the nature of my job, I sit through my fair share of job interviews. I actually really enjoy them – meeting new people, getting to hear their unique journeys, their stories and their career aspirations. However, just through the general law of averages that means I have also sat through my fair share of doozies when it comes to interviews.

 

So…….. I’ve decided to share with you all my list of “do’s” and “don’ts” when it comes to interview preparation. Here’s how you can nail your interview and ensure you don’t walk away wanting the world to swallow you whole.

 

Here is my lovely list of “must do’s before your interview to ensure you nail it every time:

 

  1. Please, sweet baby Jesus, RESEARCH the damn Company you have applied to work with. Infact, do one better and research the Company BEFORE you apply to work with them. If I had a dollar for every person I have called, who, when I ask them what it was about “Company X” that excited them, they respond to me with “I don’t really know anything about the Company”, or worse, they list brands, products, or services to me that “Company X” doesn’t own, sell, or do – I would be a very rich person!!!

 

  1. Prepare some notes or some questions to ask in your interview based on the research that you most definitely have now done because you followed my wise suggestion in point one. Your interviewers will love that you have done your homework and that you are clearly engaged and excited by the role. I love people who come prepared with questions – I especially love when people ask me things like “how long I’ve been with the business for?”, “What I like most about it?” etc. It tells me they care about where they are working and the people they will be working with.

 

  1. BE ON TIME! Or, if your sisters, friends cat really did get hit by a bus, at least ensure you call to advise that you will be late. It is not a good look when you rock up late to an interview, and you did not advise, or call the interviewers, and then do not even apologise when you arrive. My advice is always this – give yourself as much time as possible so that you are not flustered when you arrive. Account for things like bad traffic, late buses or trams, no parking, getting lost etc. Worst case (really best case!) you are early and then you have time to sit in your car, centre yourself and ensure you rock up as the best version of yourself for your interview and not a sweaty, hot mess who has forgotten what role they are actually interviewing for.

 

  1. Whilst I am on the topic of punctuality – I also believe there is such thing as being TOO early. Hence, my point above. If you are 30 minutes early to the venue for your interview (firstly, bravo!), but go and grab a coffee nearby, or sit in your car and read for a bit, but PLEASE don’t arrive at reception 30 minutes early for your interview – it puts unnecessary pressure on the interviewers, and quite frankly, is annoying.

 

  1. Ensure you get your roles right (yes, I am serious!). I understand that when people are actively looking for that next job they may be applying for more than one role. However, please ensure that you are very clear on the role that you are interviewing for when you arrive. Also ensure you are prepared to answer the relevant questions to that role that will no doubt require you to talk about how your experience is relevant to the role you are applying for.

 

  1. Be prepared to state your remuneration expectations out loud, if you haven’t already done so in the initial phone screen. AND, if you have done so in the phone screen, make sure you write down what you said (particularly if you weren’t being totally honest) – why? Because you’ll likely get asked again in the interview and if you say two different figures because you forgot the lie you told the first time, you start to appear a bit dishonest. If you’ve never thought about your rem expectations before and how to ask for them, then this blog is a MUST READ, my friend. Click here.

 

  1. Finally, come prepared with examples to questions that you will of course get asked. Things like talking about your strengths, your development areas (this isn’t a trick question, we all have them.), how you work in a team, how you like to be managed, how you manage stress, examples of how you have pushed boundaries before, or managed projects or teams are all likely to be asked. So….. prepare for them with some examples. That way when you are asked, you don’t have to sit there staring blankly at the interviewers like you want to pass out.

 

Are these tips really just the world according to Claire? Possibly. But I confidently feel that if you can nail the above and you genuinely have the relevant experience that a role is looking for, then you should find yourself very much in with a solid chance to be the successful candidate.

 

Does the thought of going to an interview make you sweat? Need help prepping? Perhaps you know you want out of where you are currently, but you’re not sure what the next step is for you? I can help you.  Hit me up at youcan@eatingyoucaketoo.com and let’s talk about how we can get you out of your own way and on to a new and fulfilling career path.

What do I do?
If you need some help working out what your next career move is, I can help. I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life.  www.claireseeber.com.au or www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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Often when we talk about career development, we talk about climbing the ladder, or taking that next step “upwards”, yet often we don’t know what this really means to us. We are conditioned to think that success always should mean a vertical climb, when in all truthfulness, success comes from achieving whatever the f*ck YOU want to!

I have had a number of conversations with people lately about what their career path should/could/would look like and more often than not the next step people think they need to take in order to be “successful” in their careers is to lead or manage a team.

For a lot of people this is a fantastic opportunity and something that they will absolutely thrive at, for others, it is just not something that they enjoy doing – and quite frankly, therefore, should not do it. Often people are promoted into roles by the Company they work for because they might be a great individual contributor or technical expert in their field, but, move them into a role where they are managing people and responsible for others development, and they are no longer competent, or even capable of thriving in what they once were an expert at.

Leading a team of people, be it 1 or 100, is a tough gig. It takes patience, encouragement, trust and a genuine belief that other’s success is your success. I often see and speak to people that are not ready for a leadership or management role, yet get thrust into them because they might be a fantastic individual contributor, all to then realise that they actually hate it. This often leads to demotivation, frustration because they are no longer working in a role they find fulfilling and, in some cases, leads to a once high-performer now being a low performer.

You can still be an incredibly successful person and go far in your chosen career path, without managing a team of people.

There are a couple of things that I deem critical to being a successful leader and would encourage you to truly reflect on BEFORE you find yourself managing a team, or put your hand up and say you want to.

 

ARE YOU:

1) A good listener, who enjoys taking the time and listening to people to help them problem-solve? When people want to talk to you, you’re pleased to stop and chat and you don’t see it as an annoyance. There is nothing worse than a manager who tells employees “I don’t have time for this!” when they have questions about the work. If this might be you – stop and reflect if becoming a manager is really what you want.

2) Sincerely keen to learn more about yourself and other people, and you’re willing to look in the mirror as you learn and make the necessary changes? Leadership is not easy and it’s not always fun. To be a leader, you have to be humble enough to learn from your employees. A leader who thinks they have all the answers will never gain the respect of their team mates – and without that, you really can’t go very far.

3) Excited by the idea of developing a team and helping people see their full potential? Do you get sincere satisfaction out of encouraging people to step up? Then being a manager is likely for you. Note: If you see developing others as just “fluff” that HR expect you to do, I’d probably stop right now, do not pass GO, do not collect $200 dollars.

4) Skilled with well-developed time management and organisational skills and you are able to manage your own workload very well? It is not your teams fault that you have work to do too – you’ll need to find a way to manage this and ensure you’re available for them when they need.

5) Patient and don’t get frustrated by questions that you might know the answer to – just because you know the answer, doesn’t mean everyone does.

6) Prepared for what can at times be a lonely gig – leadership can be lonely, particularly if you have gone from colleague to manager. You need to find a balance now between being the friend and the decision maker and that is by no means easy.

7) Prepared to have to make some pretty tough decisions or execute on some pretty rough decisions that you may not always agree with?

If you said yes to all of these, then well played Ma’am – you are likely someone who will thrive when managing a team.

Finally, consider this – if the main reason you want to become a manager is because it pays more than your current job pays, then perhaps this isn’t really what you want. AND guess what – that is ok! But, do yourself a favour and truthfully reflect on the above and whether the thought of all these things lights you up, or you see it as an inconvenient task that will just get in the way of you doing your job.

Stepping into a management role isn’t the only way to progress and lead a successful career. If you want other tips and tricks to ensure you enjoy professional success without becoming part of the corporate climb, check out my recent blog post about how you don’t have to go UP, to move UP. CLICK HERE   

If you need some help working out what your next career move is, I can help. I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. The career confusion or crossroads. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber
Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

 

POSTED IN CAREER COACHING

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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You’ve done it. Everything you have worked so hard for has been recognised. The late nights, the extra work, its been noticed and you have been promoted into a leadership role. Amazing! You get to lead a team. You get to set the tone for your team and drive the teams objectives forward. It will be fun they said. It will be great they said. YOU will be great, they said.

Then reality hits. You’ve never managed people before. In fact, you are now managing people who last week were your colleagues. You used to whinge together over lunch about your manager – now you are that person. Sh*t. Will they talk about you behind your back too? Will they think you aren’t capable, or that you shouldn’t have been promoted over them? Are you even capable? Oh gosh, people will realise I can’t do this! I can’t do this!!!! (insert minor melt down…) These tend to be some of the thoughts that I hear people go through the first time they start to lead a team.

HELLO Imposter Syndrome – nice to see you again! Welcome to the club of women (and some men!) who experience this every day. Imposter Syndrome can present itself in many ways and on very different occasions – it is a “different strokes for different folks”, kinda syndrome this one! Ever had that all-encompassing feeling of self-doubt, that feeling that everyone around you is questioning your ability, or your worth? That, my friend, is the ever-pesky Imposter Syndrome kicking into gear.

I used to be terrible for this and was the absolute epitome of what Imposter Syndrome stands for. And then one day, I realised something.  Not one person actually told me that I couldn’t do something, or that I wasn’t capable. In fact, quite the opposite. It was all in my head.  I was the one who told myself I wasn’t capable.

Are you reading this wondering if Imposter Syndrome has sunk its pesky little claws into you?

 

Here’s what Imposter Syndrome might feel like:
  • Being 100% sure you are going to fail at almost anything you set out to;
  • Devaluing or being self-deprecating of your experience or expertise in front of others because someone else might appear more confident, more experienced, older, wiser, than you;
  • Feeling like a fraud and like someone is going to find out about you, or your lack of ability; or
  • Being sure that someone else’s leadership style, ability, confidence is better than yours.

Being promoted is a big deal, so firstly, well done!  Moving from an individual contributor role, where you are ultimately in control of your own deliverables, to a role where you are assisting a team of others to deliver is a big shift and it can feel overwhelming. But, don’t panic – here are some things for you to consider as part of your transition into a leadership role:

 

  1. Accept that there is not just one “awesome” leadership style – and STOP comparing yourself to others – YOU are also awesome.
  2. Be prepared for a little bit of awkwardness at first – Transitioning to a new role, let alone a leadership role will always be a little awkward. People get used to things being a certain way, and when things change, it can be a challenging for some people initially. Be ok with this.  It is not a reflection on your ability, it is just the process of change.
  3. Acknowledge that you had to play some part in your current success – it doesn’t all come down to luck, or whatever other B/S you have been kidding yourself that it is. You were promoted because something was seen in you – now get out of your own head and prove those people right!
  4. Ask your team what they look for in a good leader – this will not only show your team that you care, but also give a you a great insight into what support they are looking for from you.
  5. Call yourself out – when you experience the feelings of self-doubt, or like you aren’t doing a good job in your new role, call it Imposter Syndrome. Once you put a name on it, it almost makes it easier to accept. Now that you have accepted it, squash the self-deprecating thoughts and move the F**k on!
  6. Get a wing-woman – whether you have someone in your life you can do this with, or you need to consider seeking out a coach, or a mentor, get someone to help call you out on these feelings and put the actions in place that you need to (in addition to the above) to get you past it.

 

Moving into a leadership role can feel scary, a bit awkward (particularly when you are now managing people who you used to be hierarchically equal to), and you start to feel like your days have a very different meaning and purpose.  Don’t panic. This is not a reflection on you, or your abilities – this is just the awkwardness of transitioning to a new role. Be confident. Be brave and believe that you were given this opportunity because you CAN do it.

 

If despite following the above advice, you are still feeling like you are suffering from Imposter Syndrome, perhaps it is time to invest in yourself to learn how to manage it.  I can help. 

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life. 

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au
www.claireseeber.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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You’ve finally done it. You’ve landed the dream job. The dream brand or Company, the title you’ve worked so hard for, and the money – whhhhhhoooop, show meeeeee the money! There is only one problem. Now that you are there, you’ve realised it’s not quite the dream job after all. Sh*t. Now, what do you do? Does this sound like you, or have you ever had this experience before?

Unfortunately, there is always a level of risk when you take on a new role in a new business. You’ve been painted a picture that you hope to be true, but you’ll never really know until you get in to a business what it is really like and what your role will really involve day to day.  Its normal to expect that your day to day life will never be exactly what was on the job ad – there might be some slight additions, or perhaps the 10% of your time that you were told you would spend on something, actually turns out to be about 25%. Most of the time we can handle that – but what do you do when you get somewhere and you realise it is SO NOT what you were sold? When you thought you were getting the penthouse, but you end up with the ground floor studio backing onto the freeway? Eeeeeeeeeek.

 

Well, you’ve got some options on how you play this and what you do….

 

Firstly, ask yourself this. Is there actually something wrong with the job, or is it just different? Moving from one business to another is a big change, even if it was something that you volunteered for. You are meeting new people, learning new systems, likely commuting to a different building and/or suburb, plus if you have taken a role that is a step up, you’ll also be feeling the pressure of what that means. So, take a breath. Reflect on whether the new job really is sh*t, or are you just experiencing a bit of change fatigue?  If it is the second, then this is completely normal and should subside over a month or so once you settle in and get used to your new normal.

 

Secondly, reflect on this. What do you like about the role and what do you not like about it? Write it down on a piece of paper and split the page into “like” and “not like”. Is the new job in a better location, with better hours and better pay? Perhaps that’s why you took the job in the first place?  What do you not like about it currently? The people aren’t friendly, or the hours are long? You need to work our which list currently means more to you and then secondly what on the “not like” list might disappear with time.

 

Thirdly, try a glass half full approach. Look at the opportunities for growth in your new job. Sure, it might not be quite what it was sold to you as. Maybe things aren’t as advanced as what you were told. Maybe there are issues within the team.  Maybe the culture doesn’t seem as good as what you were told. Put a positive spin on this and consider, what opportunity do you have to change things for the better? To put your stamp on the business or your role? A reframing of your situation could make the world of difference and encourage you to look at your situation as an opportunity not a mistake.

 

If, after reflecting on the above three items you still feel like you’ve gone down the new job mistake gurgler, then here is the silver lining – atleast you have a job, whilst you look for another one. Unless you are in the small percentage of the world who can afford to quit and not work whilst you find something new, then this is a good thing – plus, it means you can focus on finding that right next step instead of stressing about bills you have to pay and then jumping into another new job out of panic.

My top piece of advice when looking for a new job, or when leaving one for that matter, is not to burn your bridges. Be open and honest (as much as you can be) about how you are feeling, but don’t outwardly diss your workplace because this could come back to haunt you down the track. The world is a big and a small place.

 

Being at a career crossroads can be hard. Making the decision to make a leap to a new role can be scary, but it can also be exciting. Need some help working out your next move, or what you want to do? I can help.  Email me at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and we can schedule a 30-minute call obligation free to discuss how coaching could help you.

I help women get out of their own ways. I help you deal with the overthinking. The Imposter Syndrome. The self-doubt. All the things currently getting in your way of being a confident, kick a** woman in your workplace and in your life.

Much Love,
Claire Seeber


Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way! 
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
www.eatingyourcaketoo.com.au

Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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Often when we talk about career development, we talk about climbing the ladder, or taking that next step upwards, yet often we don’t know what this really means to us. We are conditioned to think that success always should mean a vertical climb, when in all truthfulness, success comes from achieving whatever YOU want to!

The number of people that I speak to about career development or career progression who want to know how they can get to that “next level” is always eye-opening to me. Why? Not because I don’t find it inspiring, I think driven and ambitious people are amazing – yet, what I find interesting, and a common thread in these conversations is that when I ask why an individual wants to progress to the next step on the ladder, or what it is about the next step that they specifically want, many people cannot articulate it.  Often, I think it is the lure of the perceived status, or the title you receive. Perhaps it is the assumption of more money that people really want (and of course, who doesn’t want more money!?!).

These things are all great and are most definitely representations of moving your way forward professionally, however, it is important to consider that these benefits, although they might satisfy in the short term, if the position and the work that you are doing is not aligned with where you want to go longer term, then the ability to experience genuine satisfaction once you achieve this “next step” will not be long lasting. Once the hype of a new title, or a salary increase dies down, if you are not completely sure of where you want to go, then you may find yourself having these feelings of “what next?”, again.

If climbing the ladder for you makes sense and aligns with your career aspirations and you know that each step “up” gets you closer to those career dreams you continue to have, then that is flippin’ brilliant my friend – kudos to you, and keep pushing!! But, if there is any part of you that thinks you are only aiming upwards because you think you must, or that it is the only logical path that meets the definition of success, then I assure you that it is not.

Here are just a couple of ways that you can still experience amazing career growth and development, AND success without following the conventional pathway from entry level, to junior, to individual contributor, to leader, to Executive etc.

Go sideways to go upwards – increase your business awareness by increasing your scope and knowledge horizontally.  A lateral move gives you the opportunity to increase your skillset, build relationships and take the time to work out what really lights you up. If then, at the end of this you were still clear that your next move was upwards into a leadership role, or an executive position, then you would be best placed with your now well-rounded knowledge of the operations of the business.

Freelance on the side to build up a network and hone in on your skills – there are endless numbers of freelancing sites now all dedicated to helping people hone in on their expertise and provide a product or service direct from them to the end consumer. And allowing them to build their brand and name in the process. Whether it is Graphic Design you want to do, or even Jewellery making, there is a site for it from Freelancer, to Airtasker, through to Etsy.

 
Start your own side hustle –  Think you want out of the corporate climb and want to have the freedom to do your own thing? Build up a side hustle outside of your 9-5 and see what traction you get there.  At the very least, you’ll find out if this is the path for you, but imagine the fruits of your hard work if it all comes off! #nothingventurednothinggained

 Take some time off to work out what lights you up and then go for it– This is one that will be different for everyone and their own unique situation, but if you find yourself in a head space where you think you may be stuck on the hamster wheel, and you don’t know why, take some time and some space to reflect. Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What are you passionate about? What excites you?
  2. What do you value in life? (i.e. family, friends, adventure, career, wealth, freedom etc).
  3. What are your non-negotiables in life? (i.e. having a successful career, being fit, having children, driving a nice car etc).
  4. When you wake up each morning, are you pumped for your day, or do you drag yourself out of bed counting how many days until the weekend?
  5. What are your strengths? What would your friends or family say your strengths were?
  6. What career opportunities are there that align both with your values and your strengths?

For those who know they want to be in the C-Suite of titles (CEO, CFO etc) that is great, and I look forward to sharing future blog posts with you about the transition from individual contributor, to leader to executive, as well as tips and tricks on how you can get there. But, for those of us who are on this path just because you think you should be, or because that is what you’ve been led to believe is what success means – get the f*ck out of your own way!

Success is whatever YOU make it, and whatever YOUR definition of it is. And, it won’t be the same as the next persons, and that is OK.

If you need a little extra support working out what your next career move is, hit me up at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com and lets talk about how I can help you get some clarity.

 

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com

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Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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