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Want to be considered for that next amazing opportunity? Here is why it’s always important to make your aspirations known!

I want to ask you a question.

Have you ever felt upset, disgruntled or undervalued because you weren’t considered for something? It might have been a job opportunity, a promotion, a stretch task or project, or even just to get involved in something outside of your usual fold?

Now…. I want you to think of these examples and reflect on whether you had ever made it known previously to anyone that you were interested in job opportunity “a”, or that you wanted to be considered for promotion “b”, or, that you were interested in being given the chance to take on more work in example “c”?

I often speak to people who are upset or disgruntled by the fact that they haven’t been offered, handed even, a particular opportunity. Yet, when I ask them if they have ever mentioned their interest in said opportunity, whether they had ever voiced it to their manager, a colleague, or even a friend – the answer is often a resounding NO.

Often, it is as if the expectation is on others to read the mind of this person and their unique ambitions, aspirations or areas they might want to get involved in that are outside their norm.
This is what I then often see happen.  The person who feels they were passed over or ignored for an opportunity becomes progressively more and more resentful, unhappy or disgruntled – at this point still not having said anything about their interest in one of the examples provided above, but expect still that their manager, colleagues, or friends should just know.

Am I suggesting that managers don’t own some responsibility for understanding and appreciating the unique aspirations and development goals of their people? Absolutely not. And if you’re curious about my thoughts on what makes a good leader, then you should see this list in my recent blog post about that they don’t tell you before you become a manager, but what you NEED to consider. CLICK HERE. 

But, peeps – this isn’t enough. Leaving your goals and dreams in the hands completely of others is not the answer. It gives you a scapegoat. It gives you someone to blame when those dreams don’t come true. When YOUR dreams don’t come true. And it gives you a reason to be unhappy or become resentful.

It is so important to your own success that you put yourself out there when it comes to your goals and aspirations. It is critical that you have conversations with people about where you want to go and what you want to achieve in your career. Or, if you don’t know what this is, it is just as important that you have those conversations too. Why? Because then you can be kept in mind for opportunities to try new things.

Am I saying that by making your goals and aspirations known that the next time a promotion opportunity comes around, it will be yours on a platter? No, I am not. But, I am saying that by putting yourself out there you are in great stead for that opportunity, or atleast will gain valuable feedback and development advice on what you need to do to try and attain that opportunity, which you may not have had if you had not made your goals known.

YOU are the only one in control of your life. Your career. Your path. Although your manager, your colleagues and your friends play a part in your life, they are not responsible for what you achieve.

Do you need clarity over what your goals and dreams are?  Have you considered what career path you want? Where you want to go or how to get there, either professionally or personally? Maybe you need a discovery session to start to distill some of your mental clutter. 

I am currently offering discovery packages at HALF PRICE!! That’s right, 50% OFF! Think 2019 is your year to kick some a**??? Then contact me to learn more about how a discovery session will help you. 

NOTE: I only work with people who are really ready to take control of their lives and get out of their own ways!

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!
youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com
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Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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I am a bit late on the blog post front this fortnight -sorry peeps!! I was fortunate enough last week to get an invitation to the Victorian Telstra Women’s Business Awards for 2017, and it was one of the most inspirational events I have ever been to. I did not know a soul except for the wonderful woman who invited me, and quite frankly I was super nervous. But, I didn’t let this stop me from accepting the invitation. I took the opportunity over the fear of feeling nervous and potentially standing in the corner on my lonesome, and sh*t was I glad that I did.

 

This amazing night showcased so many women, doing so many amazingly inspirational things, and often with multiple other personal challenges testing them at the same time. It was another great eye opener of what you can achieve when you put courage, resilience and purpose first, and it added another piece to the perspective puzzle of life.

It was also a reminder for me of how easy it is to get into a rut, or a routine (but not the one you try to create, like the eating well and going to the gym type of routine!).  It is far easier to stay in your comfort zone, keep things ticking along and play it safe. One thing that these women all had in common though, was that none of them played it safe.  They worked out what made their hearts light up, what they felt like their purpose was, and they went for it.  Most of them had been in comfortable jobs that they woke up every morning and hated, or roles that didn’t light them up inside, but it took them just one big word to ultimately make a change in their lives that set them on a path that would change them for the better, and it has changed them forever – COURAGE.

 

The highlight of my night was listening to a speech by Holly Ransom. If you don’t know of Holly Ransom, here is a link to the long list of insane achievements that this powerhouse already has against her name. This speech hit me hard. It resonated with me, and actually moved me to tears at one point.

 

Holly’s speech covered many things, but most importantly it spoke about the importance of courage and the power of choosing it over fear.  It sounds so obvious, right? But how many of us can truly say that we choose it every time? That we select courage over fear. I know I choose fear sometimes even for things where I might not have that much skin in the game, or that might not even be a big deal – “let’s not go to that restaurant, it might not be good”, “let’s not go to that party – we don’t know anyone!”. These are all super simple examples of choosing fear over courage, and if we all dig deep, we can probably all think of examples in our day to day lives where we let fear of the unknown rule over courage to seize the new opportunities in front of us.  

 

What I loved about Holly’s speech was how she broke it down into three questions to ask yourself, each time you feel that you might be letting fear overtake courage.

 

Firstly, what is the worst thing that can happen to you if you select courage over fear in whatever the current example might be?

Secondly, what is the true likelihood that the worst thing that could happen, will actually happen?

Thirdly, what could you, or would you do to reverse things, if the worst thing above actually DID happen? What could you do to fix it?

 

These all sound fairly simple, but if you work through these steps mentally each time you are thinking about doing something that takes courage, or something that you haven’t done before, you will instantly feel more confident. Why? Because you have already worked out in your head that even if the worst of the worst does come true, you CAN fix it, you CAN reverse it, and you WILL be ok.

So, what will be the first thing that you consciously push forward with courage in, and seize the opportunity of the unknown, instead of the fear of it??

 

If you want to know more about some of these amazing and inspiring women, check out the link here to this year’s 2017 Telstra Business Women’s Awards finalists and winners.

 

Thank you also for your wonderful and kind words following my latest blog post around Overthinking (check it out here if you missed it)– it become very clear to me how many of us suffer from this at times mentally paralysing trait.

If you are genuinely looking for some help in how to manage your overthinking and how to use it is as a strength instead of a derailer, feel free to hit me up at youcan@eatingyourcaketoo.com for an obligation free chat about how we can help you get out of your own way.

Much Love,

Claire Seeber

Keen advocate for helping you get the f*ck out of your own way!

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Author

Claire Seeber is a self-proclaimed travel addict, mini-sausage dog mumma, avid blogger, a lover of a good glass of pinot noir and believes a solid belly laugh should be part of your every day.

She is also a professional coach, speaker and People and Culture consultant. Claire started her business in 2017 whilst working full time as General Manager of HR for a large retail business. What she loves the most about the work she does is being able to work with passionate, motivated and courageous people who genuinely want to reach their full potential and are ready to put the hard yards in to get there.

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